In love with the X still

[little_m]

i want to break up with my current boyfriend because i feel so guilty about still being in love with my X. we went through a messy break up and the guy im dating now was the one who was there for me from day one. basiclly the day i became single was the night we got together. and i think about my X all the time and i just feel so bad for wanting to be with both. but then i want a period of just alone time. what should i do?

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (little_m @ Sep. 19 2005,00:52)]but then i want a period of just alone time. what should i do?

Basically tell him that. That you really shouldn't have jumped from one relationship to the next. We all need some down time in between to sort out our feelings, etc.
He was the rebound guy, and rarely do those relationships last forever.

[little_m]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (demonbuttercup @ Sep. 19 2005,08:17)]He was the rebound guy, and rarely do those relationships last forever.

yeah but he is so much of a better guy then my x. i just dont know if i can stand to break his heart.

[JustMeBlog]

I would tell him you have feelings for him but that you also need some time alone to catch up after the breakup. Make sure he knows how much you appreciate him being there for you and that you want to see where this goes, but that you just need some time off. Sometimes rebound relationships work out great because the guy is a great guy and sometimes they don't because you just aren't ready to fully move on.

But either way, you definately need some time for yourself.

[little_m]

should i mention that we've been "together" meaning titles for 3 months and my x and mines relationship lasted almost a year and a half. i mean, i feel like im gonna break this kids heart so hard

[MizMinx555]

Regardless of how long you've been with your current boyfreind, you have a responsibility to yourself and this boy to do what's right. It's not fair to either of you, and most especially him, for you to keep pretending everything is alright when you know its not. You're not happy, and you've admitted that you're still in love with you ex. The guy that you're with now deserves a girl that can love him with a whole heart, and as much as it may suck, you are not that girl right now. And you're right, no matter what happens you're gunna hurt him... but wouldnt it be better now, after three months, rather than down the road a few more when he's REALLY starting to have strong feelings for you?

You dont have to tell him that you're still in love with your ex... in fact, that would be kind of cruel. Just tell him that you realized a little late that you moved to quickly into a relationship after you broke up with your ex. Tell him you cant commit to this relationship until you've had some time to yourself to figure things out. Make sure he knows that you care about him regardless... tell him your sorry for letting him down, for hurting him.... thats really all you can do

Hope this helped!

[Trivium]

i was a rebound boyfriend, she just broke up with an X and within that week i asked her out and we were dating for 3-4 months and then she broke with me over an email saying she wasent ready for a relationship. at first it shatterred me, i had no idea what to do. but me being the nice guy from day 1. i just wanted her to be happy, if she wanted to be alone, then great. so we became friends with "benefits" to this day i still have absoultly no idea what that means..(maybe someone could enlighten me?) but then a week or two later she started dating someone else. whatever makes her happy right? yeah im pushover. oh well. we still see each other as friends on the weekends, we go to different schools but the commute isnt far.

guess what im saying is, i agree with Minx555, if you want to break up with him. do it now. much easier on him than 3 months from now. and if he really is the nice guy from day one, he'll understand. if he dosent, does it matter? if you dont want to be in your relationship your in, do something about it.