She Has Diffculty Accepting My Feelings

[STKMikeCampo]

Whenever I tell my girl friend I love her or she's beautiful or general compliments or if i try to be sweet she ALWAYS takes it as bullshit and that i dont mean it. Her parents have a shame of a marriage and her dad is kind of an asshole towards his wife, so I was thinking this had something to do with it. Also if she's angry at someone or thing and i ask wat the problem is, she says that I dont care. I talked to her about it and she simply says "why should u care, u dont care", evantually gets resolved but the next time it happens again. Its obviously not the case because I do care, I do love her, she is beautiful, why does she do that?

[c+m14335]

i do that alot too, and it is because i am insecure in alot of ways, that is probably why she is doing it, but even tho she says bullshit or whatever, im sure she loves hearing it it probably makes her feel special, cuz i tell my bf that what he says is bs alot of times, but it makes me feel all warm inside when he compliments me on something, even tho i say i dont believe him, i most of the time do, (and im sure he is gonna read this but oh well) and she mostlikely says u dont care because of her family problems but just be there for her and help her out she will catch on and say it less and less most likely

[WallyLlama]

There are probably at least 30 different possible reasons why she does it - and I doubt that there's only one causing it. I'm not sure that attempting to discover the reason is going to accomplish very much, particularly since (based on the information provided) she doesn't seem particularly upset by her own behavior.

I'd start "demanding" (in a gentle, respectful way) that she start accepting your love and stop calling you a liar. You can be her boyfriend or her therapist - it's difficult to be both. She may need to learn how to accept your love and how to show hers in return... the best thing you can do is to show and tell her that she needs to do it or she will destroy your relationship.

Remember this: the way you get treated in life is the way you teach people to treat you.

[Thunderchild]

http://www.thunderchild.digitalzones.com/children.html
read that - how true it is for children and adults alike
helped me understand myself !