Should i try again?

[pokerfan3]

Ok so my friend gen, I told her that I liked her at the end of the school year last year and she said that us getting together would be possible, just not then. So over the summer she tells me that she was still in love with her ex and that the chances for me and her were basically shot. So I am back at college now and i was at her apt and we were talking about it and she said how though she was liking her ex again, he wasn't really having any of that. So as of now she's single and I am wondering if I should try again in telling her that my offer to date her still stands. I'm not sure if she wants to hear that right now because she baltently tells me she never really "gets over" her ex's. Any advice will do. Thanks

[canoestripper]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]So I am back at college now and i was at her apt and we were talking about it and she said how though she was liking her ex again, he wasn't really having any of that. So as of now she's single...

She told you she's not getting back with her ex and she's single...hint...hint

There're basically three choices:
1) Wait around wondering whether to ask her, until she gives up on you. You're no worse off, but you missed the chance.

2) Ask her and she says no. Once again, no worse off.
3) Ask her and she says yes. Couldn't be any better off than that.

I could be wrong, but you won't know unless you try. You've nothing to lose, and everything to gain.

Good luck, tell us how it turns out.

[pokerfan3]

I did tell her how i felt, and basically she's not sure right now, she said to carry on as if there was no chance and not put my life on hold. She said she was focusing on "leaving her past behind", so maybe a relationship isn't what she needs now. The funny thing is that later that night she went downtown to her ex's and saw anotehr girls car there because she was suspicious and she comes back and calls me at like 5:50 A.M and i end up spending the night with her (no sex) to help her feel better. As of right now i'm just gonna go with game plan A and not put my life on hold. Should be the best way not to get burned.

[mjv154]

You need to high tail it outta there. She knows you like her and that you'll do just about anything she wants. She told you NOT to put your life on hold for her, why do you think that is? I'll tell you why, because the thought did cross her mind that you ACTUALLY would!

Calling you up at 6:00 am, wanting you to spend the night, after she ends up snooping on her x-boyfriend who is with someone else is nothing more than her - USEING YOU!

Canoe forgot to give you option number four....

4) Realize that there are tons of great, down to earth girls at college that are not going to jerk you around, and put your energy into them.

This action may actually show Gen that your not some wimp at her beck and call, and she may even start to respect you.

[pokerfan3]

Yea that sounds right, i'm being very cautios and i know there are other girls out there i just need to find them.

[c+m14335]

i say go for it u got nothing to lose

[aussie_gal]

ok well she knows exactly how you feel already and she's taking advantage of that. I say instead of acting all over her, act the opposite. back off a little bit and dont be at her beck and call. Im almost 100% that you'll soon notice her chasing after you.