My strange situation-Full story

[Langland]

Sorry for starting two topics on this but I thought Id give the full situation:

Now this is a long funny story, which will portray me as a “pig” and a bit of a saddo but I would like to know what people think of my strange situation, which I always seem to get myself into.

The date is April 7th. Im 17, and my birthday is tomorrow. I've told everyone ive slept with 4 people but really the actually number is 0! (I could have had sex with people but I guess I was just too nervous) Lol, pathetic isn't it but I don't care. Anyway I wanted to get laid before my 18th but my gf at the time doesn't know that. I have her in bed and my parents don't get home for 30 mins. I make the move, "do you want to have sex?" she says yes, this is it but there is a lot of pressure…

…But oh no, not as easy as I thought! With the time limit and the situation actually being my first time I couldn't get it up! Lol. (I laugh now but at the time I wanted to go live in a cave). Anyway I told her I couldn't get it up and she didn't really care. I spend my 18th secretly embarrassed but told a couple of my mates for a laugh, what they don't know was I was a virgin still! Anyway later that night I went out for my birthday with my mates and my gf and got absolutely hammered. The next day I woke up with a hang over beyond imaginable.

Later that day was my mates 18th, a house party fancy dress. I had too go to it because I had my costume booked (Native American). Its half 4 and I still hadn’t got it because I was hung over and wanted to watch the grand national. My mum came home telling me it closed at 4. Lucky she happened to know one of the women who owned it so I got the costume an hour later, few!

…Later that night I got to the party, got a couple of beers in me and started to feel better, but very tired. Now just to let you know, at the time I wasn’t exactly thrilled with my gf at the time and was going to end it soon. Anyway though out the night I pulled one girl to my shame and had been chatting up another and at 12 I thought would leave and go to bed but decided not too. Anyway later that night at 2 in the morning I decided to go to sleep in my car with the girl I was chatting up (She told me she wanted to get laid tonight…enter Langland). This could be my chance now to get this frustrating thing passed me, lose my virginity.

Anyway after an hour sitting in the car chatting to each other we finally get it on! At last it happened. After about 10mins we get caught by my mates but lucky there isn’t a big trail back to my gf at the time. After a laugh with her in the back and my mates back in the house she wants to have sex again. With about 4 hours of sleep this was not easy. Anyway I managed to “get it up” again (Few, I am a man after all) but there was no way I was going to cum, just too tired. After changing positions I start to go limp and make up an excuses that someone was watching and end up going to sleep.

The next morning I wake up in the back of my car with a very beautiful girl lying next to me. I wasn’t impressed with myself and just wanted to go home. I dropped off Helen (That is her name BTW) and went home for a kip. During the next week I didn’t speak to my gf a lot, partly because I felt ashamed I couldn’t get it up and I just slept with another girl. I was txting Helen during the week and realised I’ve got to finish it with my gf. I ended up finishing it with her leaving her with the nice memory of me, the guy who couldn’t get it up. I didn’t care though, I wasn’t a virgin anymore and it felt like a step forward in my life.
Whist I was braking up with her I get a txt from Helen saying she wants too sees me and she’s horny. It made me feel like a right asshole, and rightly so. Anyway I started seeing Helen and after a month I end up going out with her. But the strange thing was I still hadn’t had sex with her. We did try it once but too my horror I couldn’t get it up again and just told her I was tired. The next morning it really sunk in and felt just awful. It’s got to be one of the worst feelings for a man that has experienced it, especially the way I have! It Took another month too (with her best mate having a go at me in a nightclub to have sex with her) have sex again with her, but this time it took about 2 minutes for me too cum lol.

Its just one problem after another. Now the problem is too not cum so quick rather than get it up! (I failed too mention that in Sept I’ve got to go too uni so it always felt like the relationship was only short term. She told her mate that she thought I was going to dump her when I go, which I was.) Anyway after that I go on holiday with my mates in the summer for a week. This was the big change for me. Whist on holiday I had chances to get laid but started to realise I was having strong feelings for Helen. I had a feeling she wanted to tell me she loved me before I went but didn’t want too for some reason.

After getting back from holiday we are lying in bed and I end up telling her I loved her, with the same reply. I felt so happy. A couple of days later I get a free house for a week and start having great sex with her and falling more and more in love. I’m starting too think should I tell her she was my first time?

But one day she decided too tell me that when I go uni we shouldn’t go out anymore and should just be “seeing each other”. Like I’ve said this in another thread I felt devastated when she told me this. She said it is easier on her so she can concentrate on her collage work and won't feel so emotional about it. Also because I’m going to uni she thinks I will cheat on her. Also she said she won't go out with anyone else for about another year. How can she say that when she tells her mate she thought I was going to finish it with her!?

Now we come to the present time. I’ve seen her pretty much every day since I told her I loved her trying to make the most of this relationship. I love getting random texts from her telling me she loves me etc.

So here are my questions: Sorry for such the long story, I just need some advice, as you are the only people that know the truth about me:

1. Should I tell her she was my first time? She has slept with 5 guys and I genuinely believe her. I hate it when she tells me what and where she has done it in a boasting way, it gets me jealous. I come back with made up stories of what and where I’ve done it too lol.

2. What does she mean by seeing each other? I’ve asked her but she doesn’t give me a straight answer.

3. Is there any chance of staying with her? I hate the idea that I’m not going to be with the woman that I love and she might be pulling other guys (even though she said she won’t go out with anyone else for a long time) whist I’m at uni and probably doing the same (With girls of course).

Thanks for reading my interesting story. Hope you can help me out! Thanks again.

Langland

[Orbital]

1. Although I'm in contact with the girl I lost mine too, we're friend still (long distance). I've never told her. Something tells me she may just 'know', but unless she asked me outright I won't bring it up. If I was you I'd do the same. Why 'complicate' the situation? Plus, are you totally she she's on a grand total of five herself?

2. You're going to have to clarify that with her. How split-up are you guys going to be? Is she talking f*** buddies, or friends? Only she can answer that one.

3. Well she says it might be a long time, but really, who knows? Ditto yourself. Who's to say you won't fall for someone at uni? If you guys are going to make this work you have to thrash things out now. Lay it bare. Have 'the' conversation about where you both stand. I had friends at uni who managed to keep relationships going at home, despite temptation at college. It can be done, it's if you BOTH really want it.

It ain't easy, but good luck!