Is it wrong for me dating outside my race??

[nativenubian760]

I'm a black girl that only dates outside of my race my favorites are white and Latin men. I don't know why I have just always been that way. I never really had a crush on a black guy they turn me so off I might think they are cute and thats about it. My family is ok with it so I think but they throw it in my face they say things like I hate being black and I hate my people which I just have a mis understanding of some of the things some of the guys say "like the white men is holding me down" I freaking hate that line but i think its still *not right or they will call me white washed and things like that.
* I was raised in an all white community I remember being the only black kid in class and never saw a difference but as I got older more and more blacks moved into the community And I was teased my them and made fun of and so where the other few black kids. I never hung around them because I didn't act black enough and I listen to rock AKA "white people music". So I never could fit in with them so now taste for white men is even stronger not saying if I found a good black men *I wouldn't give him a chance I have tried that is just so different to me
but anyway is it wrong that I'm not interested in men in my race?? Plus I think its some type of fetish there just so hotttt

[iamawesum69420]

There's nothing wrong with only like men that are outside your race. It's a personal preference and you can't help that. It's just like only like someone with brown hair or only liking someone of a certain height. There's nothing wrong with you, only the people who are giving you so much trouble over this.

[thetease13]

I have a friend who's asian (born and raised here) and while she has dated one asian guy (who was born and raised here), she generally tends to go for white men and I believe one of the guys she is/was involved with is mixed between black and white, or at least he seems that way to me. I never asked.
Anyways, I find nothing wrong with it.
I'm white. I personally don't really find black men or asian men attractive. They just don't "do it" for me. I'm currently somewhat involved with a mexican/latino man. Born and raised here but of mexican decent.
And again, I don't see anything wrong with that. If someone, whatever color they are, just doesn't do it for you, they just don't do it for you. If black men don't do anything for you, then so be it. Who cares.
Race is nothing more than a color just like in my case, age is nothing more than a number. If you don't find anything wrong with it, why should it matter what other people think?
If they're gonna sit there and say all those things to you, perhaps they're the one with the problem. This is not meant to sound mean or racist as I'm not, but maybe they're some of the ones hold you back from dating people of your own race. If someone acted like that to me, it sure wouldn't make me want to be with them or anyone like them. Maybe it's time they realize that we may look different on the outside, but we all bleed the same color on the inside.

[Brandye]

Who one dates, marries, has sex with, becomes a parent with or simply hangs out with is a matter to them and no one else' business. Cultural norms can be stronger determinants than genetics in such matters of taste and personal preference.

[girl12]

I am a white girl and I pretty much only like black guys. There is nothing wrong with you. You can't control who you are attracted to, and you do not have to.

-Mariah

[oberon]

When it comes right down to it, who you date/fall in love with is your business and yours alone. *Who's going to be spending a majority of their time with your partner- you or your parents/family/friends? *You, of course. *So, it's much more important that you are happy with the choice. *

I certainly don't see it as wrong to date outside one's race. *I've dated black, hispanic, and native american guys. *No big deal. *It's the person that attracts me, not the skin color.

Be happy.

[canoestripper]

While I completely agree with everything that has been said, I can also understand that it's not always that easy. Even though it's no one elses business who you date, there are some people who will make it their business, sometimes with the use of violence. Where I live, there was for a long time a 99% white population and a lot of racial discrimination. The small population of black folks were ok as long as they "kept their place". If not, there were problems. Now we have about a 5% hispanic population and it's the same with them.
It's all about who's in the minority. I'm a very openminded person, but there are places that a white person like me would be nervous to go because I would be a minority. Not everyone thinks like me. Those who date interracially are in the minority almost everywhere they go.
There is nothing wrong with dating whoever you want, but be aware of the reactions of others. They may not always be benign or nonviolent.

[Orbital]

Although I perhaps I don't understand the 'race issue' and it's delicate poise in the USA (I'm from a semi-rural part of the UK), at the end of the day we're all the same.

You date who you want to date, whoever they are. It's a human right!

[*TLC*]

i think that there is nothing wrong with liking someone who is a differnt race!! no-one was put on earth to stick with there own culture !! i think its great that races mix!! it makes the world so much more interseting! i dont think that anything is wrong with you for not liking a man of your same race, you just might not have found a man that attracts you to them!! im half greek and my boyfriend is half barbadian!!! which is quite a mix so dont worry!! you cant choose who you fall in love with!!

[WallyLlama]

I totally agree that dating outside one's race is a personal decision. I'd also support the caution that it should be an informed decision and without expectation that every "must" agree with your decision.

But here's an interesting (to me, anyway) twist on it. On the one hand, the rational for dating outside one's race is usually - in part - that race should not be a consideration in who a person choses to date.

But then we often hear people state a preference for another race, even to the point of implying they will only date that race. Now that sounds like race is a consideration...?

Am I allowed to be a little confused here?