Should I? or Shouldn't I?

[peedee]

Ok, I'll ive you the background first...............

..............At my last job I became friends with one of the female workers and since I left 6 months ago we have become very close, to the point where its very rare if we havent spoken or emailed every day. We have got this connection, like a sixth sense, and we both know that. Which means that we dont always have to say something to know what the other is thinking or feeling. She isnt the kind of person who hugs friends etc but on occasion we have hugged to help cheer each other up. We get on sooo well and care for each other and have said that we are very special to each other also. And we can tell each other anything knowing that we wont judge each other for what we have said, done or thought.

The catch is that I have developed some deep feelings for her and if I let myself I could so fall for her. The other catch is that she is married, like any married couple they have their ups and downs but that is all besides the point.

My question or request for advice is whether I should tell her or not about my feelings towards her! Part of me thinks that she would be ok about it all and we could talk about it and carry on as normal or whatever but on the opposite side of the coin I really dont want to lose what we have now.

Please help :-)

[WallyLlama]

I vote for open and honest, but don't make it huge and frighten her... there is certainly nothing wrong with "having feelings" for each other... the big danger is that you allow yourself to grow a mental relationship/attraction without her consent and cooperation... that's why I vote for being open and honest.

[peedee]

Cheers Wally