What does this mean?

[Souljah]

Hi

Theres this girl I like/liked alot (its fading, slowly, but I'm forcing it) and used to fool around with because she liked me too but couldnt really commit to anything.
We went through up and down stages of being close then distant then supposed 'mates', then distant then friends again...And she did tell me before we got abit distant before that she just wanted to be friends for now. Which I got a little annoyed with because she had kind of been leading me on, and tried to annoy her myself (childish I know), But were ok now.

ATM I see her to help her workout because it's something I always agreed to do.
We seem to still be just friends, which I'm cool with now,I guess. But she keeps doing things that make me a little confused. Like I catch her checkin me out when I'm exercising and 'accidentally' bumping into me all the time.
One other thing she tells me that when I look her in the eye she can't help but smile or laugh, followed by a kind of pause for effect.
Is this her taking the piss? Does it mean anything? Or is it likely to mean nothing at all?

I really am fine with just being friends with her now, though I do get bouts of wishing it were more, I can still understand why it won't work. But some of the thigs she does just get me a little baffled.

I was wondering if anyone on here can tell me what they think of the situation and in particular what the eye contact thing means because I really dont know whether she just means I make her want to laugh (like a clown) or make her smile in a different way...

Thanks for any help

[WallyLlama]

She's really the only one that tell you what it means... but she also may not really know herself.

Relationships are tough, particularly in the formative stages, sometimes just because neither is really certain of themselves, each other, and the relationship.

It's important to remember that relationships are dynamic and constantly changing, as your own history with her proves. So today it might mean "I'm so happy you are my friend." Tomorrow it might mean "I'm so happy you are my friend and I want to explore being more..." It's important to remember that emotions are not always rational... and sexual tension doesn't go away just because you've agreed to be friends.

There are very few absolutes when it comes to relationships, except the ones you agree on together.

[Souljah]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (WallyLlama @ Aug. 17 2005,11:14)]She's really the only one that tell you what it means... but she also may not really know herself.

Relationships are tough, particularly in the formative stages, sometimes just because neither is really certain of themselves, each other, and the relationship.

It's important to remember that relationships are dynamic and constantly changing, as your own history with her proves. So today it might mean "I'm so happy you are my friend." Tomorrow it might mean "I'm so happy you are my friend and I want to explore being more..." It's important to remember that emotions are not always rational... and sexual tension doesn't go away just because you've agreed to be friends.

There are very few absolutes when it comes to relationships, except the ones you agree on together.

Thanks wally, you know that has pretty much helped me understand it a little better, though as you say there are number of things it could mean. I guess I was looking for and absolute answer where it just isnt possible without her telling me.

I don't know if there still is some sexual tension but to me it feels like there is, and I definately know I feel the same way physically toward her as I did before, just not so much opn the emotional and mental side any more. Which, as I said, is mainly because of the distance periods and partially forcing it on my part, to see the bad sides of her.

thanks again

[Brandye]

She does not know; you do not know; we do not know. If it is draining so much energy from you it needs resolution. Tell her how you feel; ask her out; see where it goes. If she declines, move on.

See my response tothe 15 year question on this forum.