Is he ready?

[luvmealways]

my boyfriend and i have been dating for a couple months now, but theres a minor problem that i just don't understand about him. He likes going out partying every weekend, i mean i don't mind that because we met dancing and we go partying together sometimes but theres times when he goes out with his friends and he doesn't ask me if it's ok, i don't mind but i feel we should at least let each other know, there's times when i just want to be with him alone without his friends having to be around every weekend. i like being with him and i trust him very much but now i'm getting tired of going to these little house party and i just want him to get the idea that we should be serious about each other and that i don't want to be with someone whos going to be thinking about partys 24/7 instead of being with his girl. what should i do because i really like him and i dont want to break up over something like that, i really want us to last. for some reason i think he's the one for me.

[WallyLlama]

So this guy you think is for you would rather go to parties 24/7 instead of being with you...? That bears some thought, because "your guy" should think like you and want most of the same things you do.

I suppose we could analyze this thoroughly, but I'd keep it simple. Tell him straight up that you'd like some alone time with me. You might have to be quite direct and specific.

"Next weekend let's just you and me... pack a picnic and go...(or whatever)." If he won't agree to something like that at least occasionally, you might have to accept the fact that you are not his girl; you are his party date.

I know one MARRIED couple who constantly travel, go to parties, etc. Most people who know them have figured out that they do it because they don't like each other and even though it LOOKS like they are together they are anything but!

Don't let that happen to you.

[Skyby]

I guess the only thing you can do is talk to him and tell him you want some alone time. Maybe try to organise a weekend away for just the two of you or something?

[luvmealways]

i try to get him to forget about going out to partys by inviting him to places, for example to the beach or to an amusement park but he always brings up his friends and how much fun he would have if they were to be there, i know he doesn't say it to hurt my feelings or in a negative way but like i sayd he doesn't really know how to to talk without having to think first. i really like him and i know we can get far together but i need help in doing so, i don't know how guys really are so i need advise on how to talk to him about this without telling him anything that will mske him like me less.

[WallyLlama]

I wish more people would learn to think before talking! LOL

If he truly "likes" you, he will be interested in hearing what you think and how you feel. TELL HIM. Just say, "I wish we could be together once in a while without all your friends." This would be no different than if he always wanted to go somewhere you didn't or do something you hated. It's called being selfish!

Most guys would give a right arm to be alone with the girl they like! - that's how guys really are! I don't understand this "minor problem" about him either... it could be immaturity or lack of self confidence, I suppose.

Speak up and expect to be listened to respected!