Does my Weight/Looks have to do with anything?

[Big Mike17]

Hello Everyone,Im posting today because atm im a 17yr old male/weigh about 230-250/white/i am about 5'8 tall i think...Im just wondering if my weight has to do with anything.. i just feel so outclassed im still a virgin,ive never had a girlfriend or was ever really close..

More like a loner you can say.I keep myself looking nice imo,I work out regulary /bench pressing trying to get up there.

I am a christian So it is tough to do alot of stuff that i cant do with others...Parents pressure me that i need no girlfriend or anything sexual/sinner like...

Anyhow recently i felt like i was getting close to this girl ive talked to for awhile, but i more likely felt like i was boring her and that she was not attractive to me..And you know one of the built/town football players comes along and gets her quickly..I just felt like my heart got spalttered..And now i feel i cant even talk to her no more, Because when i do she just talks about the ''built b/f'' she has..

The guy imo is just a real jerk.. i dont see why she goes with him otherthan that hes an upergrader/popular.

I dont know what my problem is.. I just feel really neverious when i try speaking to girls, like i cant keep still/you know just twichy nervious to open up to the people i feel attractive too..

can anyone help me out?..

[Rawbob]

Hi Mike:

To be really honest, i'm 5'8" and i'm 154lbs....thats the ideal weight for a guy our height!

You're a teenager and most teens are goinig to be pretty immature and so pretty shallow....and so, yes, i'm sure that your weight has a good deal to do with how others may perceive you.

The good news is you CAN change your diet get on the path to getting your weight in control!

Of course htere are folks out there who can, and will, look past your weight to see the true person u are, but that said, you have to also think about your health!

You're nearly 100lbs over weight...that is very unhealthy and u put yourself at risk for alot of heath issues...not the least of which are heart attack and diabetes!

My suggestion..go to your doctor and get him/her to put u on a good diet...talk to your gym teacher and see if he'll help you put together an excercise plan.......its all about diet and excercise .....cut back on the sweets, drink water instead of soft drinks, stuff like that!

You'll be surprised how much better u feel inside and outside when u start dropping pant sizes and people start to notice that you're losing the weight!

One day at a time ...and know it's goingto take some time! Stick with it!

[Big Mike17]

Thanks for your response, it was very supportive, im glad to see that im not the only one with problems out there.

And yes their are alot of cruel people out there, like you have described,And it is tough to try an fit in with people that cusses alot/ talks about others behind their back alot.

Thanks for your support rawbob

[pheonix]

hey big mike
i'm a big guy, erm i dont work in pounds though lol i only work in stones lol i'm over 20 but i'm like 6 foot 4 ish
17 like yourself lol.
to be honest with you i think the teen years are the worst ones for this because as was said above teenagers are shallow,
very very shallow and if you aint in a crowd then you aint no-where, why i dunno i didnt make the rules thankgod.
i myself am a loner, but i try to make the best of things, plus also this way i dont get my education screwed with.
but there is one thing, everyone and i mean everyone has someone who's right for them man or woman no matter what there is always someone who when you meat you wont even see physical things, you'll just see into each others soul probably loose yourself there for a few days, then re emerge reborn so to speak.

Hmm as for being christian, i myself aint, i'm a wiccan/spiritualist/ecclectic man myself.
but does it matter who you are?? so long as if you are you then do you need to label it?? the main thing is to be happy, whether thats by having a gf/bf going for a walk, playing games, learning, reading what ever it is, if there is a tiny piece of happiness in your life even if its so tiny its almost invisible then your on the right track.
think positive

[neon69]

well i am 17 and my boyfriend is 21 and about 5'9 or so not sure but he is like 230. an i love his belly. just like some guys like chunky girls.some girls like that teddy bear hug a larger guy can give. now i'm not the skinniest person but i'm not fat. i'm about 5'3 and 130. and he doesn't seem to mind anything...if it is love then noone cares about how you look. i promise.

[adam]

Hey there. *I registered to this board just to respond to this (I've been lurking for a while).

Don't feel bad about still being a virgin / not having a girlfriend at 17. *I'll be 17 myself in a few months, and haven't even been kissed. *I don't feel bad about it, though... I guess I've got better things to think about. *And, for the record, I'm just over 6'0 and weigh about 130 pounds. *Most girls I know could kick my ass, so yeah.

Don't worry yourself so much about the girl drama. *Speaking purely from experience, if you keep dwelling on it, you won't be able to forgive yourself. *I still have trouble sleeping at night from some of the stuff that I've done over six months ago (which really doesn't even warrant me thinking about it so much), so don't get caught up in that trap.

All that stuff about being nervous around girls is just a bit of the social anxiety, but I guess we all get over that. *First of all, just try to relax (as impossible as it is), and remember that if a girl ever becomes interested in you, it is because of who you've been since you've known that person, so you've been doing something right all along. *But if you find yourself attracted to someone else... well, I guess the same rules still apply, but it's just a part of life that feelings aren't always mutual.

Hang in there, buddy. *

[mrdoc]

hi buddy,
if ur issue is that u feel bad for being virgin, then u just need to relax. Nothing to worry, there is nothing being virgin. I am older to u n not just, and I m virgin. I feel pride in it. (my decision was a conscious one to stay virgin till marital relation).

For sex, u can look for alternative forms till u find ur sweet heart

Cheers