too drunk to remember

[luvmealways]

I'm not the type of person that goes out and gets drunk with her friends,but there was this night when i went out with the guy i like and i've known him for a year but we barely stared talking for about 3 months. well we went out to this party and i got drunk off my ass that i ended up waking up at his house, laying next to him. he said i looked sober to him after i had thrown up all the alcohol. well he said we had sex but the sad part is i dont remember a thing about it and now i dont want to talk about it. we are now in a relationship but i feel akward knowing that what happened seemed like a rape case. what advice or opinions do you have?
...just keep in mind there was feelings involved.

[uncreativename]

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Quote[/b] (luvmealways @ July 02 2005,00:38)]I'm not the type of person that goes out and gets drunk with her friends,but there was this night when i went out with the guy i like and i've known him for a year but we barely stared talking for about 3 months. well we went out to this party and i got drunk off my ass that i ended up waking up at his house, laying next to him. he said i looked sober to him after i had thrown up all the alcohol. well he said we had sex but the sad part is i dont remember a thing about it and now i dont want to talk about it. we are now in a relationship but i feel akward knowing that what happened seemed like a rape case. what advice or opinions do you have?
...just keep in mind there was feelings involved.

poor u! make sure that you're going out with him for the right reasons now. don't feel obliged just becuz u had sex even though u hav feelings for him. think long and hard about whether you trust him because he technically took advantage of u because u were drunk..not to sound cynical.
if you're having any doubts, explain to him that you're not rlly sure what position it's left your relationship in and then you can decide if you can get over the fact that this happened and turn it into a functioning relationship or whether maybe it'd all be better to forget the events.

hope i helped!?!
uncreativename

[luvmealways]

uncreativename thanks for your advice. i would still like to hear from others on their opinions

[luvmealways]

uncreativename thanks for your advice. i would still like to hear from others on their opinions

[WallyLlama]

Based on the information you've provided here's a couple of thoughts:

1. You need to control the drinking, obviously.
2. If you (or he) did not use birth control, you need to deal with the issue of possible pregnancy and STDs.
3. Since you say you don't want to talk about it, I'm not sure what else there is to do, if anything.

If you are asking whether or not you were raped, you need legal advice. I would note, however, that he may not have had sex with you. He could be lying for two reasons:

1. To scare you out of getting drunk again.
2. To convince you that since you've already done it, you should do it again.

He's the only person that can answer the question. You need to be talking with him... it sounds like you do not accept his explanation that he thought you consented. No one but him (since you apparently were out of the picture) knows what really happened.