She wants space....

[Souljah]

This girl and I have been friends while at the same time both kind of liking eachother.

I do like her alot more but theres still attraction on both sides.
We planned on doing a few things over summer but I though it best to tel her up front that I will find it hard to be friends with her and that I don't want her to feel awkward knowing I like her that much.

Apparently this was a bad move because now she will barely talk to me, I don't know whether it was the time I said it [she was in a bit of a bad mood that day], I just don't know.

She stood me up the next day quite harshly, telling me she didnt think we should hook up about 30 mins before we were suppposed to, which kind of hurt.

She tells me she needs a little space and time to think (about whether we can be friends still) but at the same time I see her every now and then and shes really cold with me. I really don't know how telling her this could make her seem like she doesn't like me, unless it's an act while she figures stuff out...but I doubt that, she says she's not sure how to act around me and feels awkward - the one thing I didnt really want her to feel.

I guess I've ruined it, I got a little uppity with her about being cold to me, wanting to know exactly what i'd done wrong and that probably annoyed her further.

I just don't know how to play it besides waiting for her but I don't want to lose her as a friend either...guess it's too late..

Thanks for any help

[WallyLlama]

Live and learn!

Actually, you need to consider an attitude change. Being friends with you is a privilige that you are offering her. It sounds like you both feel that her being friends with you is somehow this great gift she can choose to bestow on you or not.

Friendships can be difficult, but it pays to be friends with people who value you as much as themselves.

Just treat her like a friend. She'll either return it or not. There's much else you can do at this point. Assuming there is in fact there is still attraction on both sides (it sure doesn't sound like it) you and her need to figure out how to treat each other and make it work.

Giving her total power over the relationship now is not going to work any more than telling her you would find it hard to be friends did. (You pretty much told her she wasn't going to have a choice.) Relationships are supposed to be about two people, not solely how one feels about the other.