GF problems

[steven_321]

hi ive been having a problem with my gf of 9 months....We have been having a great relationship....we do all the normal stuff...we chill...hang out...go out shoping, movies, dinner....we talk and laugh and even cry at times... we are everything a couple should be and more...Our sex life was good too...we would have intercourse, unfortunately we gave up on oral sex since she never desired it, and she could never give oral sex to me because my penis is to large for her...so we stuck to intercourse....but our intercourse has gone to the bin...we use to do this during the day...but since the home is no longer available during the day...and now because of this we dont do anything sexually at nite...for u see my gf has this need to wash and since at night she cant because ppl are sleeping she never wants to do anything at all period and its frustrating as hell....she feels that she will get a disease and says she will be uncomfortable if we do anything at night, and this means no sexualness at all in our relationship and i dont know what to do??? we always use condoms and she is on the pill but she still wont do anything...and its getting to me...where is the physical in our relationship can i get any advice at all because she is driving me up the wall??? thanks for reading and help will be greatful

[Fluffer]

Man, I would love to say there's more to a relationship than sex and you should just stick it out...but I can't!!! *If you've tried talking to her and she won't come around, move on. *You're not married to her, right? *Unless you really love her and can tolerate this situation for an extended period of time, it may be time to move on.

Sorry...I know some of ya'll probably think that is horrible advice, but a relationship needs to work for both people and if she's not responding and he's miserable...

[WallyLlama]

I'd echo Fluffer's observation, adding that it seems like we're beginning to see more and more posts about these nearly perfect but sexless relationships. Maybe someone can explain how that works!?!!

Circumstances change... a couple deals with those changes whether it's about sex or money or living arrangements.

Relationships are packages.

[LittleFury]

Go to a therapist that specializes in relationship counseling. They would be able to help. Relationships are nnot always easy. It is in fact usually hard work, and sometimes you need outside help. I think this is the case here. I know that you usually don't have as much sex as you do the first few months of the relationship, but what you got is sort of an extreme. If your relationship is worth fixing, get yourself and your gf to a relationship counseling. Good luck

[steven_321]

thanks for the input people...keep it coming...i really appreciate it

[DannyBoy]

all depend on how long this has been going on. i no for 1 that i started to go off my gf and it effected my sex life alot. just sit down have a chat. don't be to pushy tho coz they don't like bein push. u don't need sex all the time sum girls like to c how long u manage with out it for abit. if she is worred that people are asleep then she is tellin u that she don't wanna wake them up by screamin lol.
im sure it'll b ok just tlk about it. just make sure the both of u still love each other the same as u do when u 1st meet.