Trouble with Love...

[confused101]

Ok well... where to start... i guess it all begins last summer around june when me and my ex hooked up... i fell in love with him but then around august i found out about this girl he'd been talking to in texas... now i didn't mind it much at first until he tell's me around october that he loves both me and her and of course he wanted me to wait for him to figure out who he liked more...so i waited until about january because after he said that, i'd feel more neglected by him and i started feeling more like a slut when we did stuff becuase he was talking to her and she didn't even know about me she thought it was just her he liked.... anyways so i left him in january but we remained friends.... but in the end of february i found a new boyfriend and he's a great guy but extremely clingy... and my ex seemed fine with it at first but eventually i fell in love with the new guy too... when my ex saw this he started getting upset....bringing up stuff like how i was supposed to wait for him... and now this guy has proposed and it's all moving soo fast but the second my ex found out he got really angry and told me i had to choose my ex or the guy that proposed to me.... and he only gave me 24hrs to make the choice... which was extremely unfair.... and the new guy is now trying to be a little controling and he cries a lot... and i love both of them and i just don't know what to do anymore.... please does anyone have any advice???

[Souljah]

This is just my opinion and its probably not ADVICE as such...

But 24hrs? I mean thats unreasonable, especially considering the amount of time youi waited for him. I wouldn't ever expect a girl I wanted to be with to make a decision that quick. Seems to me like you need alot more time than 24hrs to figure it out, sort of like what he did. It might be tough but if you make a rush decision just to please one or the other you might regret it later on.

With the ne guy, yeah ur right it seems like its moving to fast, I'm quite a clingy guy too, minus the crying and moving too fast, I just like to be with the person alot. Can youi just slow down there? or is that not an option?

I'd have to say time is the main factor, time to sort out what you want in ur head, plus' and minus' and all that, who you REALLY want to be with, or perhaps if its too hard you yourself need to take a break from it all...I don't know because I'm not you and I can't really relate to the situation but I think if I were in similar circumstances i'd be trying to put the brakes on everything for at least a little while...

[confused101]

update: well i ended up choosing neither right now and i broke up with the new guy.... and at first he begged me not to go then said "ok its over i want $380 for helping you get that cell phone... and i want back the dog" the dog he only helped me get for which i own take care of and trained.... and he couldn't even take care of her.... but anyways now he's all like "please dont do this to me..." again....

[pozzolane]

Cheers and applause for confused101!!! you did the right thing! Really if you put it into persepective your choice was a cling on wuss bag, * (sorry I'm not making light of your sitch) *or someone who tries to be controlling. Slim pickins there if you ask me. But you did the right thing! So good for you! His immaturity in the way he handled the break-up clearly demonstrates his insecurity. That's why people cling. They are insecure with the relationship and mostly themselves. His behaviour is not surprising in the least.

I hope you have better luck with the next one!