Help with asking her out

[Skrilla]

Hello everyone, I just joined because maybe some of you can help me with a problem that I have. *I was at a party and there was a girl one year younger then me (I am 16). *I noticed her, because she was extremly beautiful. *After her and her friends left my buddies told me that she was very intereseted in me, as much as I was interested in her. *I can get her number and everything, but whenever I ask a girl out I freeze up. *I can be real good friends with a girl right up to when I ask them out then I get scared I think stuff like will she like me, am I equiped enough for her, etc. *Please and thank-you all for any advice yo give me

[girl12]

Hey, coming from a young woman's point of view, confidence is sexy and appealing to me and all of my friends. If you approach someone with confidence I'm sure she will be more interested. STOP WORRYING!!! All you are doing is making it worse for yourself. Remember if you get turned down, it is not the end of the world. Just relax, stop trying to compare yourself to other people, stop trying to ask yourself if you are good enough. If you end up dating this girl, she needs to accept you for who you are, remember that. Just relax and go with the flow, you wont freeze up if you remember that this is not a life and death situation, and all you are doing is approaching a beautiful girl who is as interested in you as you are in her. Show confidence and everything will be fine.

-Mariah

[HerPleasure06]

see your "what do woman like" thread

[WallyLlama]

Perspective.

If you can ask for a phone number, you can ask for a date.

It might help to not think of it as a date. Think of it as suggesting an activity... wanna study together? go to the game together? stop for ice cream?

Dating is a process, not just an event. You're not asking for her hand in marriage, just an opportunity to explore the friendship you already have by spending some time together.

You've already realized that you are creating the "freeze up." If you can create it, you can also "uncreate" it.

In this case you already know she likes you, so that's not even a question to spend time on...

Nerves and stress are good things... they keep us on our toes and create energy. Just channel and manage it, don't try to eliminate it entirely.

[Skrilla]

wallylama,
never looked at it from your perspective, "...being nervous is a good thing it can keep you on your toes..." I always thought that when I was nervous that nothing would work out right. Thanks everyone for alll the help

[secretly_shy]

Wally hit the nail on the head- a lot of awkwardness between teenagers asking each other out was that the question was put as "will you go out with me?", which makes you sound like an instant couple.

Whereas if you ask her to do something eg "do you want to go and see that new film?" its an activity, and takes the stress off to allow you to enjoy each others company

[DannyBoy]

i used to b the same m8.
I use to think if i asked her out she would say no and i'll feel ded embarrased and they'll have a laugh.

so i took up don't ask untill u no she likes u 2.

As for this u can see in the body lang and they way she talks to u.

try flirtin with her as women love people flirtin with her.

spend sum time to get to no her.

then at the same time she is startin to like u more.

then u go for a kill, don't worry bout the out cum just give it a try.
u neva no she might just say yes.
if not then keep things normal be her friend be there for her when she needs it. look out and help her if she has problems, she'll like u more for that

Just remember if u don't ask sum1 else will then ur'll be dissappointed coz u took to long.