relationship gone stale

[bongo]

Hi i've been seeing a girl for 6 months and we love eachother lots, but she's complaining recently that its stale, she no longer gets excited to see me and she feels like we're getting to comfortable and the romance is gone.. All this reminds her of her relationship with her ex, which ended badly

Thats not the only problem. Sex has never been great, but it used to be good, now she says she feels nothing, becuase of her worries or whatever. plus i'm no stud and my confidence is so low right now I can't even maintain an erection during sex.

Also things are tight for me financially. i would sweep her off her feet if I had the money. but I can't and no matter what anyone says, romance costs money. our relationship seems to be imploding, but I love her too much to let it go. All these things seem to just come out at once just when i thought we were back on track. i suggested we clear the air, then maybe spend some time apart (not a break just some breathing space)
She agreed straight away. I know she's having serious doubts. i dunno what to do to turn it around. This is the only girl i've ever loved.

[girl12]

I do agree that you should take some time away from eachother. Things will work themselves out no matter how the outcome is. I know that you say that she is the first girl you have ever loved, and I believe you. But, if you break up, i know it may seem like the end of the world, but it is not.

-Mariah

[pozzolane]

I think you rushed into things too fast. If it's stale after 6 months then it was pushed into it. You should hold your emotions back a little. You may be smothering her. I think you may be using her as an "out" for yourself also. You put your problems from everything into the relationship, and she can't handle it. The romance died with the push. Why is she not excited to see you? Is that because after 6 months she's learned everything there is to learn about you and now finds you boring? Possible but not likely. Is it because you bring no excitement along with you, and radiate underconfidence? There we go! Romance does not cost money. Being romantic can be as simple as rubing her feet when she's cold. After hearing you say "romance costs money" I start thinking: "The romance did not die in the relationship. It died in you."

We radiate our emotions. If you are depressed and underconfident, you permeate that around you.

If she uses the break as an excuse to get out then there is nothing you can do to get her back. It would be like squeezing jello. The harder you grip the more that slips through the fingers. If she really does want to try and make things work then you have to change your attitude. Don't try so hard to steer it where you want, or think it should go. Build your confidence back. Don't think so negatively. As far as romance goes, try to be a little unpredictable. Remember, small things go a long way. Use your imagination.