New Extremely Jealous Boyfriend

[lilly2279]

Okay, here's the thing. I have this really great and adorable friend at my one job. She just broke up with her boyfriend who never really treated her as good as she deserves.

She started dating a new guy at our work on May 4th. All I know is that they have gone out here and there, spent time together, etc.

A little bit of forshadowing here... A few days back she sat by him at work. (we do phone surveys for politics, fun fun) and I guess was joking with the guy on the phone. He tells her it made him jealous and wondered why she did not tell him she had a boyfriend. Ookayyyy, these people generally are not even in the same state as us.

Well, yesterday at work he comes by and gives her a note that he needs to talk to her later. They end up talking on break. He tells her that the trip she has been planning for a year now, to visit a friend is Florida, is making him nervous. He is afraid because he has became so attached to her so quickly. He is afraid she will cheat on him in Florida and he would be so jealous. Basically he is making her feel bad that she is going on the trip. He does not even want her to send him a postcard because it will make him sad. I told her that these are MAJOR red flags and that she needs to hold up!!

The relationship is soo new. She is not the type of girl to cheat on anyone and has given him no reason to think she would do so. He is separated from his wife - has been for a year - that's the history I know of him. I'm thinking she should run like the wind.

But I would like to know what others think and what advice they would give this really sweet girl. I'll pass it along as a little help from my friends.

[demonbuttercup]

Im with you Lilly. They haven't even been seeing each other for 2 weeks, he has no place to be getting jealous.
Especially to make her feel guilty about a trip to see a friend.. one she's been planning for a year.
If a guy said that to me... Id be like.. what kind of girl do you think I am? Cheating, sleeping around w/ random guys in FL. I mean come on?

It would totally be a turn off for me.

[dazedandconfused]

Well, it might be hard to trust females, I know I have problems with that. But he needs to back the hell off, let her have her fun in Florida. Quit being such a controlling ass. If he doesn't trust her he shouldn't let her know that. He should let her do her thing and if she does end up cheating on him, she should tell him and be honest about it.

[monie]

I would tell her this:

RUN. NOW.

Does that help?

[lilly2279]

he he. Monie, you and I think exactly alike on that. I actually whispered that to her. "Run! Now!"

Well, she broke it off with him. Now they are just friends. He seemed like such a nice guy, but it's very obvious he's a controlling a**hole.

I hope she finds someone good for her! Thanks guys!

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (monie @ May 20 2005,10:09)]I would tell her this:

RUN. NOW.

Does that help?

LMAO.

How very succinct. And true. LOL.

[snickers1]

The guy is jealous and is separated from his wife?! You're kidding? He ought to go back to his wife and behave himself. Your friend? She needs to grow up. Dating is for mature individuals, sorry, she doesn't qualify.

[Alspals69]

Well i guess your entitled to your own opinions Snickers... although I have no idea why you might think that from the posts so far.

Pleased your friend took your advice Lilly. You were exactly right.

[Skyby]

Where on earth did that come from snickers?

Im happy that your friend took your advice too Lilly, I would have said the same thing

[snickers1]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Alspals69 @ July 07 2005,13:38)]Well i guess your entitled to your own opinions Snickers... although I have no idea why you might think that from the posts so far.

Pleased your friend took your advice Lilly. You were exactly right.

I reread the entire thread again...I still stand by what I said. If you say she needs to run, that's fine. That is also what she should do. She should also remember that this "boyfriend" is also a married man...a jerk at that, but, that's beside the point, isn't it, dear? But, at the same time, baby, baby, it takes two to tango and since she is playing a game with this married man, she's a loser for doing it and for leading him on in the first place.

It would even be funnier if she busted up his marriage and he gets nailed for child support if he's got kids. Unfortunately, the kids are the ones that get the shaft on this. There are no winners.