SAD

[newbie101]

Guy's and girls i need serious help well me and my girlfriend had been dating for 11 months and 5 days and today i went over her house like i always do on wensdays and when i went in she didn't even greet me and she was doing her homework i caught a glimpse of her hand it had i like blake written on it so i waited till she got done and then i said what is that and she ssaid what is what i said that on your haand says i like blake and she says no it doesn't and i say i am not blind she says okay it does but i just started liking him today and i said well that is not love cause she told me she loved em and she's like i love you and i said no you don't and i walked out and started walking down the road and she follows me and says i do love you and i asked why you can't like someone else and love someone to so i said who do you want me or him and she said i don't know seriously guys what would make her not love me anymore this girl was my life i gave up my friendds and everything i even loved her family they was always there for me .

[HerPleasure06]

Sounds like just another school relationship, forgive me if this is an insult but judging by the word choice, grammar and lack of punctuation in your post; I would assume you are on the young side. If that’s so you don’t really have anything to worry about, relationships come and go, most of them are meaningless they might seem like the biggest thing to you now, but eventually you will barely remember them.

In her defense it is possible to like two people at the same time epically if your young, it doesn’t seem that she knows what she wants. But either way she didn’t go about it very well, seems like a really kinda grade school way of doing things.

The point I’m trying to get across here is things happen… relationships come and go. When your young the whole point of dating is to figure out what you like in a partner and the only way to do that is to try a few times (doesn’t mean every body figures it out)…

You have 3options….you can try to talk to her about it in a mature way and see if that gets you anywhere just don’t get mad during the conversation because that definitely wont! You could just not think about it but that’s not really a good option, or you can end the relationship and move on with your life

[WallyLlama]

This is a tragedy and a loss, and it is perhaps an even greater one if you are young because the earliest lessons in life are often the hardest.

It doesn't make sense that she suddenly changed, and yet those things happen. Change is not limited to the young, but change is often the most dramatic during those teen/high school years.

If (or when) you can see beyond the pain you're feeling now, there are two important lessons for you.

First, it is very likely that her change has less to do with you than you might think... it is unlikely that anything you did or anything about you is responsible for her sudden interest in Blake. For reasons she may not even understand, she's suddenly attracted to him. Your sadness is natural - just don't beat yourself up.

Second, when relating to another - no matter how good and deep the relationship - NEVER give up your life and your friends. The best partner will love the entire you and that includes your life and your friends. Partnerships are about sharing; they are not about sacrificing.

[newbie101]

thanks you guys have helped alot but the thing is it hurts more now then it did when it happened i guess cause i expected her to call or email or something and it never happened.

[DMC87]

This is probably for the best, going cold turkey and not speaking to her is going to make it a lot less painful in the long run.

[pozzolane]

I can vouch for what the others are trying to, or are, saying. Especially Wally! He gives excellent advice. So I really would recommend listening to him. It takes time to heal. But you will! It is very heart breaking when we have to be taught lessons in such a manner. But the important part is that you learn and grow from it. I'm a 4th year university student (21 years old), and I never really had a "girlfriend" until just last year. We were not "dating" but in a sense we were together. She had become my friend in a class we had and we started seeing each other after she had broken up with her boyfriend at the time. We had become really close and for a while I thought I was in love. It all changed pretty much over night when she wrote me an email saying "I'm not comfortable around you and we can't be friends"...It was a very childish and immature email but I'll never forget how I felt as I read it. I was 20 when I had to learn the lesson of not trying to control or manipulate relationships. But ever since then I've had bad problems with faith and trust and I still don't have great luck with women. What I'm trying to tell you in a drawn out way is: Learn from the journey! we all crash and we all bruise. We're not weak cause we fall down. We're strong because we get back up.

take care and keep your head up. you'll get it!

[Mouta]

This happened to me..well pretty similar. We just ended up fighting all the time and recently broke up.