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[swthrt1964]

Hi. I'm a new member here. I'm 42 and have been divorced for 6 months now. After I got over the stress of the divorce, I realized that I have a very strong sex drive. I dated for a while during my separation, but now have a boyfriend (he's 43) and I want to have sex with him every single night.

For the first couple of months we were together, he didn't seem to have much interest in sex which left me feeling rejected and unattractive. We then decided to see other people. I got involved with a guy I work with and that relationship was pretty hot.

As soon as the original guy found out about this relationship, he convinced me to break it off and see him on a more serious basis.

That was about a month ago and since then, he's totally horny every night and satisfies me very much. But I'm beginning to wonder if he started taking Viagra or something OR is it possible that he just developed a strong sex drive?

I'd feel kind of guilty if he were taking expensive medications just to please me.

Sorry this is so long. I just need some answers.

Any advice??

[WallyLlama]

It could be this simple: your relationship with the guy at work increased your confidence and made you feel better about yourself.

As a guy, I can tell you that a woman who is down on herself is much less attractive than a woman with some confidence.

The only person who knows for sure is your guy. You could ask him, I suppose, but I think it's a dangerous question and topic at this stage of the relationship.

It would be - in my opinion - a lot better to simply enjoy the sex and drop the guilt trip and see where things go. Do not get in the habit of suspecting that any time something good happens to you, you somehow don't deserve it and you somehow must have something to feel bad about.

He's probably not on Viagra, but if he thought enough of you to do that... well, that's pretty damn cool, I'd say.

[Rawbob]

Or..could it be that when your curren bf saw you were moving on with yor life and dating antoher guy, he thought 2wice and decided it was best to throw his hat back in the ring and try and get to date you on a more intimate basis?

I"m thinkin that's it.!

Just please heed this advice from a divorced guy......ENJOY your new freedom....reclaim your independence.......try to avoid making long-term emotional committments till you've gone at least a full year alone. Why? Well, no matter if you're a male or female, many of us have a tendency to want to replace what we've lost - no matter how good or bad teh divorce was.

Reclaiming one's independence allows you to see things alot more clearly...and not risk making emotional decisions that may hurt you in the long run!

Best of luck!

[mmparks]

Well.. 42, your in your sexual peak

I dont know if this can be said across the board, but so many men want what they cant have or what they thing is getting away. That could be it, or maybe he was taking it easy on you and feeling out the situation before unleashing the inner horn dog
I agree with Wally that your confidence/happiness from this other relationship probably made you much ore attractive to him. Its not ALL about looks

As for the Viagra.. ask him. What good is a relationship if you have no communication?

[swthrt1964]

Thanks for your advice, you guys. *I would tend to agree with all of you that he may fall under "wanting what you can't have" category. *It's just that it's been a full month and he still insists on staying over here every night. *We don't seem to be getting tired of each other yet.

As for that guy from work (single -- never married), he wanted to spend every moment with me and wanted to get serious almost right away. *It was too much for me so soon, so I was glad to break it off. *We decided to stay friends, which is good since I still have to work with him.

Also, glad to know that BF 1 may have actually developed a sex drive. *It would be very sweet of him to take Viagara for me, but it's just so expensive and I know that he can't really afford that right now. *(He's divorced paying child support for 2 kids and alimony to his ex.).

Anyway, I appreciate your input. *I feel a little better about things.

S.

[swthrt1964]

Oh well ... so much for the "sex every night". He told me he was gonna read for a while as I got "ready" for him. He never did get to see the white lacy camisole and panties he loved so much in the store. He was sound asleep by the time I got to the bed.

I'm wondering: if I buy the Viagara, crush it up and add it to his drink ... would that work??

Badly in need tonight.

[WallyLlama]

I'll assume you were joking!

I consider myself fairly well, um, "driven" but sometimes the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak. (Not referring to a specific body part, meaning the body needs sleep.)

You might have tried waking him up.

You might have tried waking me up. LOL

Seriously, some night soon you may be tired or have a headache. It happens. Don't let it destroy.

Now, about that camisole and panties...

[mmparks]

LOL @ Wally!

Yeah, let the poor guy recoup! LOL! My man and I are sex fiends.. but there are occassionas where we just need to sleep.. and veg out.

AND I have found the best way to "wake up" a tired man is to say : Ok.. we dont have to do anything tonight. Hope you dont mind if I play with myself over here... " and start masturbating while laying next to him in bed. I swear if he was dead he'd wake up to jump me when I do that.

[swthrt1964]

Wally: I did wake him up and was wearing the camisole and matching panties with thigh hi's. Think he was happy about that? NO!! LOL. But things were better tonight. I'll give up on the crushed Viagara idea.

S.

[swthrt1964]

mmparks: Thanks -- that's a good idea, too. I may just have to resort to that. Wonder if that will work for him.

Thanks.

S.