im depressed

[agentdunken]

me and my ex brooke dated for a while and we were also perfect. we loved each other like f***. but she started falling for her dam ex again because we always fought over him cause he non stop trired to take her away from me by telling her lies and crap. well after the brake up i went into depression and all. well we talked for a week and stuff. well he put major guilt trips on her like if you truly love me you will never talk to him and crap. well she fought over me about that and stuff but we did talk. well she was falling for again and when he found out all hell broke loose. she ened going back to me. i was so freakin happy. but him again told her a lie that i was cheating on her with my really old ex. he shows her a email i sent to my really old ex back when i was broken up with brooke. well he didnt show her that date. date was jan 30, 2005. well she didnt believe me when i keeped on telling her and he ened up braking us up again. well after that we had a big talk and she admited that she always loved me more. only reason why she did that stuff was because people she really likes shes mean to them and gets nervous around them. well i new that cause her sister and mom told me that but brooke said no to me on that but she finaly admited it. well we get back together again and once again that dam ex comes back out of know where and puts guilt trips on her and more lies about me. got her to brake up with me for him. well he told her if you dont stop talking to me i will leave your life for good and never talk to you again. well she told me to never talk to her, she dont care what happeneds with me, she dont want me in her life. well she didnt mean it. that night she wanted to talk to me so badly cause she felt bad but he told her no. well 2 weeks later we talk again. it was awsome. she started calling me baby and hottie again and started telling me she loves me. every thing that was natural to her with me came back. but the next day he see us talking and said brooke talk to him and ill leave. once again put another guilt trip on her. since then we never talked again. its been 2 weeks now since we talked. i miss her alot and love her a lot. over because some dam ex hated me becuase she always loved me more.

she put me into depression and i dont know what to do any more. i tried calling her and she dont anwser or any thing. i miss her alot. why do people want to brake a realtionship up when both partners love each other. why dont they just leave us alone. why did he have to brake us up. its not my fault that she feel in love with me. what should i do?

[mjv154]

I feel for you my friend. I realize that these types of situations are always difficult. As far as what to do, there are two things I am thinking.

First, maybe her back and forth games are not the best thing for either of you. It may be best to simply remove her from your life if she is going to keep doing this on and off type of thing.

Second, this is NOT all her X's fault. She is doing this to you not him. If she would make up her mind and stick to her decision it wouldn't matter what head games he tried to play.

It is tought I know. Loosing something is never pleasant, but in this case you may be better off without her. Perhaps it will be easier to end it and deal with one big lump of sorrow rather than deal with this seemingly endless stream of torture she is putting you through.

[pozzolane]

True, perfect love does not exist in this world.

I consider myself a religious person yes, but at the same time I'm no preacher. However, this is my belief: True love only exists with God. He/She alone has the power to "unconditionally love" somebody. We do not. Although created in God's image, we are imperfect beings only capable of imperfect love.

Theres a clause here written in tiny writting though. Although we do not have the ability to unconditionally love somebody, we can still experience "real" love. Real love has conditions but no limitations.

She does not have "real" love for you my friend. There are no tricks in real love and there are no games. This is not saying she doesn't have feelings for you. She obviously does. But if she were to love you like love is. She wouldn't care in the least of what her ex tells her.

She is confused and that shouldn't be a reflection on how you view yourself.

One piece of advise I can offer is. It will not improve with her. Only by improving yourself and yourself alone. And remember - We're not weak cause we fall, we're strong because get get back up.

Keep your head up my friend. Things always have a way of working out if you keep your eyes on your goals.