Degrees of cheating!

[Freshballz]

Ok im sure there are alot of topics about cheating but i have to know how strongly does the avarage person feel about cheating? i for one can't stand it, people i don't even know who cheat piss me off and i can't imagin if my girlfriend cheated on me. i also want to know if there are differnt levels of cheating? like making out at a party, or having an affair, is one forgivable? or is cheating cheating? post here about your opinons on cheating, and i also want to know is there people out there who have cheated and NOT regreted it?

[Joie]

If you have agreed to have a exclusive relation ship with a person then...

kissing someone else is cheating
having sex with someone else is cheating
dating someone else is cheating
exchanging explicit text messages or e-mails with someone is cheating!

I haven't had many relationships but i have never cheated and i don't intend on ever doin so. i think its mean not to consider someone else's feelings. And if anyone says "it just happened!" then they are pathetic and weak! Once a cheater always a cheater. it takes me enough time to trust someone in the first place, if a guy cheated on me once i'd never trust them with my heart ever again. (but id have to try if i had kids cuz i thinks its imortant to try and keep a family together.)

cheating is cheating - no excuses - i hate it!

[lilly2279]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Joie @ April 07 2005,05:55)]exchanging explicit text messages or e-mails with someone is cheating!

Ooh, there would be a lot of cheating on this website, then!

I think it's wrong too, to talk dirty to someone when you have a spouse or significant other in your life.

I also don't consider there to be different degrees of cheating. If my boyfriend kissed another girl, I would be one angry girl. But then I'm not sure if I would dump him as quick as if he had slept with someone else?? Hmmm, so maybe that would be different degrees.

If I knew he was online talking dirty to some girl online, I'd be ticked too. But in that situation, I could always laugh and tell him he's probably talking to our 400 pound neighbor with one tooth and she's just telling him she's a 5'8" 120 pound knockout. he he.

[Tessie]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]Ooh, there would be a lot of cheating on this website, then!

Exactly what does that statement mean Lilly?

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] ]But in that situation, I could always laugh and tell him he's probably talking to our 400 pound neighbor with one tooth and she's just telling him she's a 5'8" 120 pound knockout. *he he.

This is why you probably aren't good at flirting or cybering. You are way to superficial.

[lilly2279]

I was just saying if exchanging little naughty messages to each other WAS cheating, there would be a lot of it on this site. I think that statement was pretty darn clear.

Oh, I'm fine at flirting and cybered in the past when my boyfriend was stationed in iraq. I did a pretty damn good job of it. Made him perfectly happy.

Superficial? Nope, just not desperate, that's all.

[oberon]

Okay, I was bored... so I looked up "cheat" in the dictionary (Webster's New Dictionary of the English Language). *

cheat n. 1. the act of deceiving: FRAUD: DECEPTION 2. one that cheats: a dishonest person

Wow... by those definitions, anything done with another person without the knowledge of your partner would be considered cheating. *

I, personally, have never cheated on anyone... I've been tempted, I've just never done it. *I'm not sure why, but "one night stands" always seem to want to follow me home... that really wouldn't work in a cheating situation...lol. *

I HAVE been cheated on. *The funny thing about that is if the person had just told me beforehand, I probably wouldn't have had a problem with it. * I've never really been in an open relationship, but I think I could deal with that better than someone running around behind my back. *Someone who cheats leads me to think they are still "looking".

[lilly2279]

Don your post makes a ton of sense. And you're right. If they are too intimate and buddy buddy with one person, then I would worry. And a flirter is fine, as long as they spread the love around. ha ha.

[Mouta]

I think cheating is cheating as has been said. Whether it's a date or an affair..or anything in between.

My most recent girlfriend cheated on me..believe it or not twice. She is a cheater and I knew it, but I thought she could change and she did..for about 5 months then everything changed, she claimed she was "passed out" so this guy raped her then and then she made it out with some other guy she went on two dates with . I don't think im gonna be able to work in any females for quite a while now.

Anyways a cheater is a cheater...always will be, I on the other hand don't even want to know what it's like.

[Joie]

sounds like ur a bit like me mouta!

sad to hear you got cheated on. i don't think i ever have been but who knows! every one is different some people can deal with people cheating on them and not need total trust in a relationship, i'm a person who needs to know that i'm with the kind of guy that would never do anything like that to me. I think people like you and me need to find partners who have the same morals as us. And they are out there its just damn hard finding them!

[Mouta]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Joie @ April 09 2005,09:41)]sounds like ur a bit like me mouta!

sad to hear you got cheated on. i don't think i ever have been but who knows! every one is different some people can deal with people cheating on them and not need total trust in a relationship, i'm a person who needs to know that i'm with the kind of guy that would never do anything like that to me. I think people like you and me need to find partners who have the same morals as us. And they are out there its just damn hard finding them!

Yup, and some people will lie to be with you for just a while . I knew this girl was KIND OF like this, but I thought she would change..i was wrong