The first call

[vagabondprince]

alright. after having been in a relationship or hung up over it for my college life thus far, i haven't been doing much (any) dating. i've finally decided to actively start looking for someone to date again (hopefully not as seriously as the last relationship). I have gone out, been social, flirted with girls, hit on girls i thought i might have a chance with, all the things i was wary of doing when i was in and out of the relationship i had with my ex because i was either going out with her or wishing and hoping i was going out with her. Anyway, now a couple of these flirting situations have resulted in me getting the girl's number. so my question is, what do you talk about on that first phone call with a girl whose number you got?

[thetease13]

I'm so not trying to be obnoxious when I say this but "Hi" is a good start. lol.

Our first convo started out somewhat like that.
When I got his # I had no idea it was a pager #. I thought perhaps I put it in wrong or he gave it to me wrong. But I tried it anyways. He called back, I said hello, he said someone paged me, I ask if it *insert his name*, he said yes, and I said it's *insert my name here* from work. And then it was pretty much "Oh Hi. What's up.". And it just kinda went on from there.
I don't think our first conversation was the normal first conversation people have, but that's due to a sexual attraction from the beginning and he pretty much wanted to know what I had done before... which was nothing.

And you know, even a year and a half later, our conversations still start off as pretty much "hey" (as I'm the one that answers the phone or calls him) and he returns with "what's up".
Yea, it's lame, but at least it's a starting point as we never know exactly what we're gonna talk about.

[secretly_shy]

Dont just say "will u go out with me?"

but ask her to something specific eg "would you like to go see a film with me this friday night"