Will he call me?

[mmparks]

I thought that too DOn.. but I think we're dealing with the very young here

[sarah2004]

something I don't get is today when he came over and we were cuddling and watching a movie he asked me "what would you do if i died tomorrow" and i said i would miss you and his reply to that was no you won't you would find someone else and i was like no i wouldn't.then a while after that he was telling me how he is thinking of quiting smoking, but going to get back on chewing instead and i was like no,thats just as bad......and get this,this is the biggy that surprised me.He said what would you said if I got you an engagement ring in December and i was like i dunno, but at that moment i was thinking "wow,thats kinda fast,by December we have only been dating 10 months and i would prefer to wait longer".It didn't freak me out or scare me,it just was like an out there question that I didn't espect him to say to me so soon.What should i tell him or do about that little situation?I don't want to hurt his feeling or anything by saying "uh....i'm not quite ready for that yet,its a little too soon".I dunno how he would take it.

[lilly2279]

It's fine to say that if that is how you feel.

And he may be testing you, to see what you would say. To see if you're one of those girls that would be like "well I would say yes, because I'm so in love after only a month!".

My ex-husband asked if me what I would say if he asked me to marry him on our SECOND date. I said "well, I would say it's way to soon!" and he was cool with that. We were married about 6 months later - which was still kinda soon! It lasted for 7 years before I left though. But the point is that it didn't scare him away by me telling him it would be too soon.

[thetease13]

Let him know how you feel about things. If he doesn't run fleeing for the hills afterwords, he's at least worth something.

I personally have issues sharing things because of how people and "friends" have treated me in the past so it's very hard for me to say things to him like I want to.
But in the past, I have let some stuff come out that I thought would scare him off but he hasn't run off yet. And last month something important came up that I needed to talk to him about and let me tell you that it's a great feeling when you're practically pouring your heart out to someone you consider a very good friend (because he is my friend above everything else) and he says to you that you're not gonna lose him.

So yes, anyways, speak your mind. Tell him how you feel. An open communication never hurt anyone really.

[sarah2004]

sorry i haven't responded in a while.I told him how i felt when i was at his house Saturday for his b-day and he was cool with me saying its a lil soon to be talkin about that and he was like i know,i was just askin we would have to talk to your parents first about it. While i was there we......did "it" like 3 times. I don't regret it, but he's actin a lil different like he's not as into huggin on me and talkin to me of course when i saw him today he was having a hangover from the vodka he drank Saturday and had a headache so i was thinkin maybe thats why he wasn't as into talkin to me and if that is it then i guess i gotta respect that. I just hope he isn't plannin on ditchin me after we did that. He said he wanted to be with me the rest of his life and if he was really serious about that then us already doing it shouldn't matter whether it was good or not.

[lilly2279]

Did you lose your virginity?

Because I noticed you had another post going about this guy, as well. He has a record of stepping out and doing wrong things.

Keep your chin up and try not to get yourself too emotionally attached until you're sure he feels the same way. He seems a little rough around the edges. Make sure he treats you well and don't get starstruck over him just because he's sexy or a bad boy. Think about these things and your future and how he equates into that.

[sarah2004]

yes i lost my virginity to him lilly2279 and yesterday when i went to his house cuz he said he had needed to talk to me about something while we were in his room we ended up having an arguement cuz i told him i was worried he would cheat on me and first he laughed then he got kinda pissed and said who would i leave you for and i told him i dunno so he said this is f*ed up and then told he wasn't gonna leave me and that i was the only girl he thought of in jail and that if he was gonna leave me he wouldn't have asked about getting me an engagement ring in December. When i told him that i was worried and he laughed it hurt my feelings and i started to cry a bit and he was going on about not understanding women and saying thats why he had been thinking of just staying single before he decided to be with me and when he said that i felt bad. I care about him a lot, but if we can't have a decent discussion without him getting mad about it and me ending up feeling bad then i dunno what. Maybe he just got mad cuz of the way i said making it out like i don't trust him at all when i do trust him i just get myself into thinking that if i'm not good enough for him he will throw me away. I guess i just need to give this relationship time and get to know him more so things like that that happened yesterday won't happen again.