To stay until morning or not to stay

[Chris1234]

I am 40 and recently divorced. I just met this man (he is 45 and divorced) about a week ago and we definitely felt the sparks on our first date. We have gone out a total of 3 dates already, and we just couldn't keep our hands off of each other (we had some heavy pettings but no sex yet). We decided to spend next saturday night together at a hotel and go all the way. But I am thinking of not staying until the morning, and I want to end the date around midnight or so.

What do you guys think? Does it make him want me more? We've been talking about what it would be like to make love to each other since our first date, and I keep building up the anticipation. I am kind of really enjoy this feeling.

[iamawesum69420]

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Quote[/b] ]Does it make him want me more?

Why would it make him want you more? Are you thinking that it might play into playing hard to get? I just don't understand how that would make him want you more. It might actually make him want you LESS. It might seem that you are using him. I would definately talk to him before you just decide to leave. If you just suddenly leave after the sex he might start to feel self concious. Like he wasn't very good.


Another question is what is your reason for leaving? If the two of you are getting the room for the night why not take advantage of that and spend the whole night together...

[cajdi2004]

what is your reason for wanting to leave other than wanting to make him want you more?

are there kids at home? is that why you are using a hotel? if thats the case, i think you should talk about it so it is clear that the hotel is only a short stay since there is nowhere else to go.

Chances are he may be happy with that arrangement since most men's idea of post sex fun is getting dressed and going home or rolling over and going to sleep!

Remember the old joke from the Clinton day's? What did Pres Clinton say to Hillary after sex? "Honey I'll be right home!"

[Chris1234]

He is ok with whether I leave at midnight or stay until the next morning. It seems that whenever we got together and it's time for me to go home, he always wanted the date to last longer and had a hard time to let me go. May be it doesn't make any different at all. Or may be it'll make me want me more and more and it'll make him look forward to an out of town trip together where we could really spend a long time together.

[iamawesum69420]

Well spending the whole night could make him see how great it is spending that much time with you and THAT will make him look forward to that weekend getaway.

[WallyLlama]

At some point, you stop trying to manipulate the relationship and just do what makes you both happy. Trust the gods or fate or whatever else you believe in and stop trying to engineer things. You'll find it a whole lot less stressful in the long run.