SO jealous

[uncreativename]

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[oberon]

Hmmm... you do realize that nothing you said has anything to do with her, right?

She's popular but slutty. *You may want to be popular, but do you want to go to the length that she has? *Do you really want that kind of popularity? *It's the difference between having one good friend that cares about you and you can depend on verses a bunch of acquaintances that might not stop if you were bleeding in the street.

She goes after guys I like (maybe even my boyfriend). *Well, if you have a boyfriend that you really care for, does it matter that she might have hundreds of playmates? *As for YOUR boyfriend, if he really cares for you, then you shouldn't need to worry that he's going to go after her. *If he does, that's more of a problem with him rather than her.

She's my "best" friend. *Really? *If she's a friend, then she wouldn't go after your boyfriend. *If this is the kind of friend that she is, then YOU need to distance yourself from her.

Ah, finally, the heart of the matter...lol...

I feel a bit down. *Just hanging in there. *While people like this girl may seem happier than you or more popular, I think you'll find in the long run that it's better to have one good friend or one true love rather than a bunch of sometime friends or sex partners. *No one is responsible for your happiness but you. If you are in a situation where you are unhappy, then change the situation. *Having real friendships and love may not make you popular, but it can certainly make you happier.

Take care.

[soulmates82]

youve probably already heard this 100 times, and, if you like ALL of were at your age, you have a tough time understanding how it can possibly pertain to the right here and now, but, it really is true that your "social status" or "popularity" during your jr/sr highschool years has very little importance in the outcome of the person you will evetually become in life beyond graduation.
during adolescnce we all place far too much relavence on being in with the in crowd. probably everyone here can tell yu that YES indeed, jr/sr high are some pretty tough times on kids. weve all been there, all have horror stories of zits and not having cool clothes like all the cool kids or being called geeky cuz your a library aide or bring sack lunch and stand in milk line.... i wasnt alowed to wear make up, had to wear snow boots and carry my shoes n a shoe bag.... i KNOW all about being a "choir queer" and member of "dummy debate" club... anyway ive surely digressed but if someone here was a cheerleader or quarterback on football team back then, im betting yes even they have similiar stories that will show that the kids in the in crowd have their own "pecking order" and they have feelings of inadequacy too and things happen to then too that hurt their pride... its a matter of its just all relevant to individual situations.
funny thing tho, the geeks like me and the popular kids, today you cant tell us apart can you? who cares if your coworker was a "jock" or a "head"? who cares if i was flat chested, knock kneed, pigeon toed retard from the "other side of the tracks"?
i wish id have focused a lot more of my attention on the important stuff like learning and getting an education and the skills to prepare me for the job market, staying awake studying rather than awake all night crying i didnt get asked to the party like all the others did or..... today im thinking what again oh vagely remember running for student council, i lost but to who again? today im thinking sure glad i was on the speech and debate team because today i have the confidence to give presentations and speak before a group of people. sure glad i can type and read beyond a grade school level, my stint as treasurer of latin club, "latin loser" turnes out being valuable prior experience to a prospective employer....
moral is this: you are an individual, unique person. you should use this the stage of your life to find yourself and learn to like yourself for who you are and what you stand for. find your talents and you strengths and work on any weaknesses in your way. "slutty socialite" wont look near as impressive on a resume as "scholastic achiever" will. slept with xxx people pales to working as a volunteer helped raise $xxx for charity....
i know ive rambled here but im hoping you can see that its just nonsence for you to get all conerned about other folks and wanting what they have or wanting lots of "friends" .... concern yourself with yourself and what you want and enjoy what you have and get to know lots of people in your school and dont isolate yourself into any single group or catagory or activity. reach out and expand your horizons and ill just bettcha youll meet lots of interesting folks interested in same things you are and you'll have friends to hang out with and have fun with and looky there, you found yourself a crowd you can be yourself in. in with the crowd youre in makes you one of the "in crowd" now doesnt it?

[uncreativename]

thanks u guys....i guess i shouldn't envy someone who appears to be happy, but deep down is so insecure with her whole life she confuses sex/male attention with love.

thanks all,
uncreativename