getting attached too fast?? step back?

[eowyn]

Ok so to cut to the chase- I have been seeing this guy for over a month...we have had sex a few times and had good times. we used to talk to each other every other day or sometimes it would be everyday. we had a date last weekend and i thought it went good...but he has been really distant with me this past week. i actually bumped into him for a second at his work and he said was sick...ok anyways am i being way too attached to be freaking out because he hasnt been talking to me? cause i tried to talk to him and he has been really distant...am i crazy? or normal?

[Iwishiknew]

... ya know... i think its just how we guys r ... we really or most of us dont get that attched to women and women do men... its just how we kinda are...i think he knows ur some what attached to him and he doesnt wanna take advantage of that lol must be a nice guy...either that or because he doesnt wanna hurt u knowing himself and how he is in situations like this...so just give him a lil space to start missing what u have...and if he doesnt than he wasnt worth it you know...

[noon]

I can understand the whole distance thing. . . Everything seems fine until all-of-a-sudden something doesn't seem like it once was. The one time that I was the one seeking to put distance between a girlfriend and I, it was because something had changed. It was almost overnight; I was crazy about her--caught up in the pursuit/courting--then all of a sudden the relationship was no longer fun. She was a great gal, and I feel terrible about how my feelings could change so suddenly. It was after I felt this change that I started growing distant, and ended up breaking up with her eventually.

In retrospect, I think it would have been much better had I been completely honest with her in the first place, and not have tried to make the relationship work despite my heart no longer being in it. "Being distant" with someone as a means of breaking up with someone is something I shall never do again--a recent relationship ended like that (where she was the one acting differently), and it hurt more than had she been honest and ended it a long time ago.

And in answer to at least one question, eowyn, you are not crazy, and seem quite normal to me. I wish you the best of luck with your situation.

Regarding Iwishiknew's comment, I am unlike the guys that you speak of. There is a a line from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind that fits me perfect, "Why do I fall in love with every woman that shows me the least bit of attention?" I generally get quite attached, and I think the only thing that will ever change that is more experience I guess. . .