Relationship Problems :(

[Alspals69]

i agree... flirting is such a great way of having fun... who's first?

[vagabondprince]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (WallyLlama @ Feb. 09 2005,06:40)]Flirting is fun. It might just be about the fun.

Flirting (usually!) makes the other person feel good about him or herself.

Flirting can be (forget the little old lady for a minute LOL) a simple acknowledgement of sexual tension. The nice thing is it's a positive acknowledgement. However spoken or unspoken, "I find you attractive," is hardly among the worse things you can say to another.

The only thing about that is a person usually doesn't have a feeling of guilt from just flirting in that nature. If the guy mentioned in the original post was really just flirting and not doing something more serious, it is flirting in the nature of finding another catch that he was likely doing. He was feeling guilty for some reason...

[WallyLlama]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (vagabondprince @ Feb. 11 2005,10:11)]The only thing about that is a person usually doesn't have a feeling of guilt from just flirting in that nature. If the guy mentioned in the original post was really just flirting and not doing something more serious, it is flirting in the nature of finding another catch that he was likely doing. He was feeling guilty for some reason...

I'm glad you said "usually." I'd underline it... because I've known a lot of people who feel "guilty" about the strangest things, including their own thoughts.

I would not immediately jump to the conclusion that his guilt is evidence of cheating or a desire to find another catch.

Guilt is a powerful - and somewhat "fashionable" emotion. Most emotions don't lend themselves to straightforward logic. A+B does not always equal C.

[yetagainsorrows]

There is nothing wrong with flirting. The saying holds true:
Look but don't touch, Flirt but don't fulfill. I had great sex with a b/f because we flirted. When things got a little too comfortable in our sex lives. I would go to a bar (we'd go to the same one alone) and we'd flirt with different people. At the end of the night, we'd meet again for the first time and pick each other up and go home to screw like the first time. We'd be so hot, from watching all night. Chat rooms too, like to log on different computers in the house and chat until we decided to take it to a IM and then get all hot talking until we couldn't stand it and then meet in the hall for a good screw.

The fact is you can think all you want in life, but the actions always have the burden.

[Oleander]

All of you insight to her story is Great and everything.. But NONE of you actually answered her question. She really didn't ask for your imput on the situation, she asked what she could say to him to make him belive her that she wont leave him.

Some of you are right, but he could be telling the truth some men do think that poorly of themselvs that they think they don't diserve someone so they figure they need a 'back up'.

And sweetie, there isn't much you can say to him to make him belive you.. Only things I can think of *Cause i've said them to my current boyfriend*

in your case

Ive been with you for this long *10 months*.. and I know you, *If you love him tell him you love him*...I'm not going to just stop likeing you//loveing you and leave you.. Feelings don't change that fast..

To go on with my advice i need to know if you love him or just like//lust?