Loving a Friend

[JNII]

Im in college and here is a girl who still goes to my HS that I am in love with. I live 2 hours away and see her very seldomly. We had decided before i elft that wed have an open relationship, adn wen i get home we would be togetehr. I was just home for winter break and i realized that was not happenong. While iw as gone she built a whole new life without me and we didnt see each oteghr much whiel i was home. I spoke ot her about it and she told me she couldnt handle reservign herself for me and being anything more than just a friedn at this period in her life. She still ahs feeligns for me adn i sitll ahev feeligns for her (very stroing ones ) but i dont know hwo to deal with being just her friend. It was very difficult for me to not be with her over break and now i know that shell eb with otehr guys and its gonna be just a friendship. If anyone could please help thatd be awesome.

One love.

[lilly2279]

Well you decided on an open relationship. Are you sure you are comfortable with that? If you're not tell her. If you are, then make your end open, as well.

Go to some parties, join some clubs, meet some new people and build your own new life, as well.

Remain good friends and if things are meant to be, it will work out in the end.

[finewine]

sometimes the love is so deep you can't break the friendship. this is a hard place to be in if you are in love. it teaches you deeper meanings of what love really is and deeper meanings of who you are and what motivates you to love. its uncomfortable but being uncomfortable is when you learn the most things in life and you seek action to become comfortable again, hopefully to be a better person for that next love in your life. there are always choices to make and each person has to make their own choices and hope that the action taken is the best one.
lilly and don one have good advice I think. make sure your feelings are made known and make sure you know her feelings, she may have wanted more than open ended before you said lets be open ended and you didn't take the time to listen to her because you weren't sure about how you felt and was only listening to yourself.