Cheating Question

[JNII]

How do people cheat? I dont understand how they can do it and live with themselves. Im in love, but not with the girl i love. and i kissed another girl tonite and i am completely full of guilt adn pain for it. adn im scared tot ell the girl who i love because i dont wanna hurt her adn get her angry at me. Were not togetehr so it wouldnt be cheating. But shes very jealous and hates the girl i kisssed and would be very upset. Not ot mention this is a girl my brotehr likes too. If anyone can give me advice thatd be awesome im drowning here...

[oberon]

Let's see if I've gotten this right.... *You have feelings for, we'll call her girlA, but you aren't together and never have been. *Tonight you kissed girlB. *GirlA is the jealous type and you think this would upset her... and your brother who also likes this girl. *Right?

Okay... If girlA isn't your girlfriend and you aren't even dating, I don't see that she has any right to be upset whomever you kiss. *It's also completely understandable that if you are frustrated by a lack of interest from girlA that you would start to look elsewhere- as you should if she not going to return your attention. *Yes, you may still have feeling for her, but dating (or kissing...lol) other girls should help you move on. *

Your brother. *Well, there's something to be said for "finder's, keeper's". *If he's interested, he should have made his move. *If girlB is NOT interested in him, then it's just too bad if she is interested in you. *

You should, however, take girlB's feelings into consideration. *If you aren't going to be interested in seeing her, then it's not fair to her to lead her on.

Finally, cheating. *I don't understand how people can cheat either... *but I don't see that this applies in your case anyway. *You aren't with this girl. *You need not feel guilty.