Is her "violence" flirting?

[lilly2279]

Well I actually do pinch my boyfriend when he tickles me. Only because I'm MEGA sensitive to tickling from the knees down and he'll get me pinned down and start tickling. I'll pinch whatever part of his body I can get a hold of and I leave bruises if he doesn't stop right away.

lol. maybe I'm not mature either.. ha ha

[noon]

I guess here is an update of sorts. . .

I had a rather lengthy explanation of what has happened the past few days with her at work (we work together), and realized while writing that she is immature. She is only 19, (I am 25) so some immaturity is to be expected. I've noticed she has been really moody the last few days, and seems to take it out only on me. She'd be all smiles to other co-workers, and then tease/harass me. The violence that I talked about earlier still exists at work, but on a much smaller scale. I say moody because the second part of the shift yesterday she remembered that I giggle like a little girl when I am tickled, so proceeded to take advantage of that. Of course I enjoyed this a lot (I mean, her hands were all over me!) and after that she joked around and stuff and wasn't mean in her harassing. Up until the tickling, I suspected she was being snooty/bitchy because she was trying to tell me she was no longer interested in me. Now I am not quite sure what to think. Is this how she is trying to show affection? It seems ridiculously difficult to get her to talk about anything semi-serious--she either just laughs or changes the subject.

Anyways, I notice that I still ended up writing a big paragraph. Ah well. . . I appreciate everyone's comments on my situation as well--heck, I will appreciate any further comments also. Thanks for being such a supportive group. . .

[thetease13]

It all depends on the person really.

When my guy says something stupid, or a smart remark, that I can't come up with an answer to, I'll lightly hit him in the arm. For him, it's kinda flirting and kinda not flirting and I think him and I both know that.
I do the same to others, but with others, I'm not flirting. It's just how I react. Most of my great friends in life were and are male, and since I was a tomboy (hell, I still am in some ways), it's just something I kinda got accustomed (no, I can't spell) to. That playful little hit every now and then to kinda let the other know you won the battle... for now. lol.

I'm sure outsiders and some of the people I do it to think it's flirting, but if you know me, you'd know I'm kind of a touchy person anyways. I'll put my hand on your arm, your shoulder, and etc.

Anyways, so yes, it all depends on the person and depends on the person they're doing it to. If they know they can get away with it, they're gonna take advantage of that.

My guess is yes, she's flirting with you.

And ss for your tickling thing, I wouldn't really consider it harassing. It's more of an amusement thing.
I know my guy is ticklish. I know he will jump and squirm when I do it. It amuses me, and if no one is paying attention to us, I will use that to my full advantage because it amuses me. Maybe this is her case too.
You have to find something that you can get away with, with her. My guy knows I'm ticklish, and while I won't really jump, I will squirm a little and my reflexes are generally good enough that I can grab his hand before he pulls away. That all makes him smile and laugh at little.

So yes, find something of your own that you know you can get away with and know she won't file some kind of harassment suit on you.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Blinks... i dont know.. how you can't see it as flirting? considering... you have had sex.. and made out a few times OBVIOUSLY she likes you in SOME way. Hell i think you should just talk to her.. and Figure it out once and forall