Breaking up & confused

[dazed0and_cunfuzed]

all right... here's the problem

i have been going out with my girlfriend for just over a year now.. and everything was going good in the first month and all but after that i honeslty began to think that things might not work out..

see.... i was introduced to my g/f when she slept over with my sister...... my sister is mentally disabled.. but at the time i didn't think much of it. and my girlfreind attended a tiny school with 30+ year old student's (she's 20)..

so it was all fine and dandy for a little while... but it just kind of disintegrated into just random converstions.. so now she's going to my school and we see each other every day but all it is, is in the morning and after school.. and our conversation's consist of about 30 words in total..

now i just don't really feel anything for her anymore... she doesn't come to my house anymore... i don't go to her's.... we barley talk on the phone.. and i feel like we just don't have anything anymore

we haven't talked about it or anything at all so i don't know how to do this... so what i'm looking for is advice and possibly someone to guide me through the whole breakup process and how to minimize the hurt feelings. please help me out

[girl12]

well first of all, u need to talk to her. the best way is to tell her how u feel, and if u want to maintain a friendship with her, then tell her that as well. and if she doesnt accept it, thats her problem.

[JustTrying2BeAGOODBoyfriend]

I'm with Mariah on this one, i remember when i was "in the dark" with friends of mine, and losing their friendship, or attention could have been simply solved by talking to 'em...

[WallyLlama]

It sounds like you have broken up with each other. I'd have to ask "What's the basis for you calling her your girlfriend?"

I'm also a bit troubled by the paragraph about your sister's mental disability and the fact that your "girlfriend" attends school with people much older... are you suggesting that she might also have some issues? That would explain your concern about breaking up the relationship...?

Since there's really no relationship (a friendship, it seems, but that's fine) I'm not sure you have to do anything. Based on your description, there's really nothing to break up, is there?

There might be some value in confirming what you both already know, but unless she somehow thinks you're still a couple... I'm not sure there's a lot to be gained by "breaking up" since it seems you already have!

[monie]

I agree with the points Wally brought up here. Some things you need to think about. However, I do think you should talk to her, to make sure you are both on the same page. Probably best to do the talking after the thinking

[dazed0and_cunfuzed]

welll.. now it's done... We've broken up but it didn't go as planned.... se i've been sick all day so I had no idea she even came over to my house with my sister.. (I was in bed sleeping) and when I woke up there was a note on my desk saying that she was breaking up with me...(I never thought i would see so many vulgar words fit on one peice of paper)

So thanks for your advice it really helped!