Help me get the woman of my dreams!!!

[Greendale]

Hey, you guys don't know me and you don't know her, so you don't know the truth. After she rejected the gift card, she kept talking to me in the hallway, saying hi and getting into conversations, so it's obvious she is my close friend. Stop assuming things. 'cause you don't know crap what goes on over here to where I live, so it's wrong for you to accuse me of trying to stalk her which is not true.

She said she loved the idea of giving her the gift card, she rejected it because she felt it was too soon to give her something like that, but she gave me a Christmas card too, that means she accepted my friendship. What you're telling above is only a matter of opinion and your interpretration of things, it's not the truth. I wasn't obsessed with her.

At the Christmas party, she didn't kept going outside to try get away from me. I'm a DJ at the party, and if I wanted I would go up to her and ask her to dance with me, but since she's a heavy smoker, that is why she kept going outside a lot, to smoke, she is not shy around guys and she has confidence around people.

I was too busy DJ'ing to spend some time with her at the party, so don't assume things that I'm trying to stalk her at the party. If I went right up to her and ask her if she wanted to dance with me, I'm sure she would be more than welcome to. I'm sure she would be more than willing to hug me if I asked her to. Women likes getting hugs from men whether she's single, married or already have a boyfriend. There's nothing wrong with getting hugs with women you're close to even if they're married, single or they already have a boyfriend. I've hugged many married women all the time.

It doesn't matter anyhow, 'cause this morning at work, I heard that she just got terminated, she's fired and canned. Her bosses let her go and canned her. So the possibilities of getting the woman of my dreams is officially over.

I don't have the slightest idea of why she was fired, but don't want to know 'cause it's none of my bussiness. But since she was fired, she must of did something serious, so to me it sounds like this woman is "bad news" anyways.

And you are an idiot for accusing me of trying to stalk her or pursue her, I was just simply asking to be her friend. Nothing wrong with that. Just because you want to be a close friend of a single mother, doesn't mean you want a relationship. Get a friggin grip.

And about me giving her my music on CD's, I've given people my music at work all the time, not just her. I always give free music to people I'm close to. She was just a close friend. That's all, I've clearly stated that she was definitely going to come to my live acoustic shows but she couldn't make it to any of them 'cause it was hard to find herself a babysitter. That's proof that she was willing to be my friend.

But, I'll never see her again now since she's been canned. Oh well, I'm not heartbroken about it. I'll move on. There's tons of women around. I guess I won't ask advice on trying to get someone I like as a friend so I won't get accused of stalking or pursuing.

If she was creeped out of me trying to ask her to be her friend (nothing more), then she would flat out tell me to stay away from her. She never did any of that.

Still a good try though. But no loss, as I said, there's women everywhere. So I guess I'll have to keep trying and one day, there will be a single woman that will be willing to be friends with me in hopes of a future serious relationship. Thanks for the help and adivce and differences of opinions of yours though.

[lilly2279]

Gosh, didn't you like our honest answers? I don't know why. You know it's really boring when things are all roses all the time, don't you think? I figured we could start getting real with your post since you like to tell it how it is with other people. I think it's only fair.

It's too bad she got fired. But since you guys are such close friends, I'm sure you have her phone number and can continue to chat with her.

Oh, and I don't really enjoy hugs from strange men I don't like. But maybe all women are not like that. I just had a weird guy tell me he wanted to hug me so he could feel my breasts. So it creeps me out, unless I actually like someone.

[Greendale]

She knew I wasn't a strange man, we've known each other for the past few years... I would have asked her for her phone number/e-mail address since she accepted her friendship with me but it's too late now. She knows I'm a great guy, she told me many times.