More than just friends

[WallyLlama]

Good Luck! With the added caution that this is a date (maybe, but it also may not be a date) and not an invitation to become a life partner or something. Age is not a factor at this point.

To offer a somewhat over-simplified answer to your question, the operative word is "dependency." If you can't function normally without your partner (even in limited areas), that's unhealthy.

I wouldn't worry about the friend being jealous. She had her chance. Once again, you're making her totally responsible for your relationship with her and what you do. If you're going to take your life off hold, do it. Don't do it "unless she gets jealous."

[Coder]

Just to keep you all updated (and to vent) on how things went saturday night. It wasn't pretty so I'm gonna keep it short.

We went to Dennys to get a quick bite to eat (don't drink on an empty stomach).
We went to the karaoke bar.
We waited in the back for about 30 minutes or so until a table was available and took it.
Things were going ok, she sang Hit Me With Your Best Shot by Pat Benetar. I swear if you closed your eyes you would have sworn Pat herself was there. Amazing voice.

Anyway, on the the gruesome parts.
A few of her female friends were there and that cool, I expected that. No problem there.
Some old friend of hers was there, a male friend that she had not seen for a few years. She wanted to say Hi to him. No problem there I thought. I was there about 2 hours and she spent about 90% of time with him. Hanging off him and him hanging on her. After about 2 hours (I wanted to sober up a little bit, even though I only had 3 beers), I asked one of her female friends if she was sober enough to drive. She doesn't drink so she was sober. I told her "Good, then you drive Amber home, I'm leaving". Then I walked out and went home without saying another word to anybody.

My friend called me this afternoon to see how things went. I told her. She wants to curb stomp Amber now. Shes very pissed at Amber.
Have not heard from Amber yet today. I'm interested to see what she has to say at work tomorrow.


I know the dating game can be tough, but damn, I wish my first date in so many years did not have to be so crappy.

[WallyLlama]

I've actually had a similar experience, so I know it sucks. But re-read the first paragraph of my previous post. I did try to warn you that this might not be a date. In a sense, you set yourself up for the disappointment.

Did it occur to you to hit on a few of Amber's friends? You're supposed to be taking your life off hold, remember?

I'm joking, but not as much as it might seem.

[Coder]

A few comments she had made to me prior to saturday night that suggested that she was into me or liked me or at least had some intenion of being with me.

Thursday night, her and I along with another girl from work went out to a casino, played penny machines, when I mentioned that the other girl was on the other side of the casino, she said "Shes leaving us alone to bond".
Her hair is black with red highlights (you can hardly see the black though). I then told her that I liked red hair (red hair is a big turn on for me).
When I called her saturday afternoon to see what time she would be ready for me to pick her up, she told me that she had just got back from the store and that she had bought some red hair dye.
Those comments (and others she had made during the week) suggested to me that she was interested.

If some girl had said and done those things, wouldn't you get the impression that she had an interest in you or wanted to impress you?

Anyway, as far as I am concerned, she doesn't exist anymore.