Just talking to girls

[pogo888]

i'm pretty shy, and never really talked to girls often. now i am starting to though... and i when i do, i dont want to just sit there like a dumb ass.

what do girls like to talk about? the ones i see i know love to talk about things, but if i need to start up the convo, what should i talk about? sorry if this is a strange question

by the way, can someone please link me to the female diagrams page? i read about them in the Pleasing Her forums, but i could not find them. any help is appreciated !!!

[eDJ]

After a guy learns something about flirting with girls and to recognize their signals that they are flirting with you......comes the need to know a little about the art of conversation.

Girls and guys tend to talk about different things than what two girls or two guys would generally talk about. The things
guys and girls may first build bridges to each other with is the music they listen to. Women are less visual than guys and are thought to be more aural or about hearing things, thus music is a nice conversation starter. Women tend to discuss
how they feel about things more than the guys and it is a reach for most males who aren't so in touch with how they feel.

Conversation is an art, and it can be learned and expanded.
I would as always suggest visiting a public library and looking for some books on flirting and talking to others. Libraries have these books or can get them for you from other larger libraries if you request them.

I once saw this one girls Yahoo Profile and it read...."Good looks will get ya noticed and lure the boys to you, but after 10 seconds...ya better have something to talk about." It is true for the guys as well as the girls. Talking about your travels, trips, school experience, hopes dreams, favorite music, favorite movies, places to hang out, and things like that will get a conversation going. Also, if you walk together
don't underestimate the value of just being silent.....holding hands or having your arm around her and just walking together.

eDJ

[oberon]

Hi Pogo888,

Conversation... just keep it natural. *Talk about the things that interest you: *tv shows you like, books you've read, movies you've seen. *It's not really that much different than talking to a guy friend. *

One thing to remember- especially if you are shy- is learn to listen. *Get her to do the talking... and pay attention to what she says. *Ask questions about things she mentions. *One of the best way to impress someone is to show you are REALLY listening to them. *Women (heck, anyone) will give you many clues about themselves if you bother to listen to them.

The female diagram? *I'm not sure if this is what you are talking about, but try this:

The Clitoris

Is that it? *If not, let us know and we'll see if we can't find it? *I'm sure Demonbuttercup knows just where whatever it is you are looking for is...LOL. *

[vagabondprince]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (eDJ @ Dec. 03 2004,01:36)]Also, if you walk together
don't underestimate the value of just being silent.....holding hands or having your arm around her and just walking together.

the only problem with that is that you have to get to that point by talking to and befreinding the girl.

i never really figured out how to strike up a conversation and get to talking. one of the things that always got me was thinking "yeah, i have interests, so what? what interest may they be of hers?". the other thing was that i was about as shy as they come. i'm doing better, but still always have problems. One thing suggested to me that i never tried for some reason was that i should ask what the girl is doing that weekend. what i didn't realize was that by doing this i could kind of find out some of her interests and strike up a conversation that way. i always thought it was too nosy to start a conversation that way, but thinking back, i'm not so sure it would have been all that bad a way to do things.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (oberon @ Dec. 03 2004,02:48)]One thing to remember- especially if you are shy- is learn to listen. *Get her to do the talking... and pay attention to what she says

though i just named one possible way above, i'd like to know exactly how to do this. i constantly find it a struggle to get her to say anything. asking open ended questions, all that, just doesn't seem to work. are there any good methods to do this?

[eDJ]

Vagabondprince I understand that when you are shy just getting to a point where you can ask a girl to do something as simple as to take a walk with you leaves your innerself
in a whirl wind or....oh what will I say, wow..what will she think etc etc and then you wonder if its even worth it. But,
if you will explain to the girl that you like her but are kind of shy, yet still sincere, it may happen that she will be supportive
of you and carry the conversation to get you to the point
you are comfortable enough to begin overcome the shyness.
Some girls will do this. Of course there are those who won't
but I'd be willing to wager you could tell the difference between the bratz girls who have to be miss center of attention, mall girl, and all round Miss Self Absorbed Hottie,
and a down to earth real person who's head is on her sholders
and feet are on the ground.(an isn't trying to be Britney Spears or any of the other bubblegum princesses)

There are those girls who find the quiet guys rather interesting...and if one takes you home to meet mom and dad...you may find mom is like the daughter and dad is the quiet type. They will suprise you with their ability to make up
for your shyness if they think you would enjoy being with them. Ya just have to trust in mother nature

eDJ

[girl12]

i dont agree with the whole "men r more visual thing"
but i do agree that music is a good subject to bring up.

also...DONT BE A STALKER. i am not saying u r. i just have had BAD experiences with dudes who didnt really fit in...so i was their friend...and then they started getting REALLY stalkerish and it was fuckin scary and weird and ya...so dont stalk the girls u wanna talk to, but dont be SCARED to talk to them...

i cant speak for all women but i like it when a guy is not painfully shy. i like a guy that is more open but not to a point where he feels like he knows me better than anything in the world.

-mariah