AM I SCARING HIM OFF?

[tinaboo_fun]

Hi! I have a question that I need some advice on. If anyone can help, it would be greatly appreciated.

Well, I dated this guy about a year ago and we lost contact. More recently, though, we've regained contact and have begun talking on a regular basis for about three months. We've decided to start dating, but now, three days before our first date, it seems that he's ignoring my calls. He says that he's very busy with a paper that he has to write for one of his classes, but he's not ignoring me. My question is: Is he really ignoring me but is afraid to tell me? Also, should I stop calling him and just wait until he calls me? Thanks for your help, everyone!

T

[oberon]

Yes, stop calling him. Do you know when this paper is due? Before or after your date? If before, wait and see if he calls then... or wait and see if he keeps the date. Otherwise, you are starting to sound a little desperate... and unless your a housewife on ABC, that's not interesting or funny.

Seriously, give him time. If he doesn't keep your date, then you can say, "NEXT!" and move on. He may really just be busy at the moment.

Take care.

[mjv154]

Yah, I'd just relax. It can be really easy to get caught up in things like this, "he's ignoring me, he dosen't like me, I'm calling to much, he's calling to little, bla bla bla."

Your going to make yourself crazy, and no one wants to date a crazy person. Give him some time, tell him you still want to keep the date, you realize that he is busy, and that he should give you a call when he can.

This way he knows how you feel and if you does or doesn't call you will know how he feels. Just don't let your emotions get the best of you.....relax and good luck.

[Ringo]

To be honest, if you haven't scared him off yet, then you will if you keep on calling him.

If he says he's busy, take him at his word. If it turns out he's talking crap then he's not worth your time.

Cheers.