Can someone help me out?

[Itscrazycold]

Hey, im new to the forum so first of all id just like to say Hi.

Well, my problem is that I can't seem to get a girlfriend at all, or anything of the sort, lately I havn't even come close. I'm a high school football player and do well. 200 lbs, 6'1 long brown hair and as far as I know from what im told im somewhat attractive in the least. I just cannot seem to find a girl for me. Lately ive found that i've been a little anti-social and I dont talk as much as I used to but I cant seem to get past it, even when I try to start talking to people I can't keep it going. Sadly, ive become desperate in my need for a relationship. Id appreciate if anyone could give me tips or help with my problem.

Thanks in advance.

[ftcollinsboy121]

In high school and desperate? Way too young for that. Having a girlfriend isn't all that you should worry about. But keep diligent. Make a mental list of the qualities you want in a girlfriend (not all superficial either). If you have female friends, ask yourself why you're friends and such. I really can't help much, just give some pointers that have helped me.

[BabyBlue]

If your giving out a desperate vibe believe me women will pick up on it and go “no thanks”. You need to try and relax and work on your conversational skills. When talking to another person come across as really interested in them and that you are a good listener, girls love that. I don’t mean just say nothing, make regular sounds such as “mmmm”, “yeah” “totally agree” “of course”, it takes the pressure of you having to keep the conversation too. Ask questions where they can’t get away with one word answers; ask about their opinions on certain issues, films, event, music or recent news. Stay up to date with things too, so you have stuff to talk about.
Women are more drawn to someone who can hold a conversation, who is self assured, who have interests and are interested in others. Think what you can offer others, if it’s not that much then get working on it, and be a bit of a gent too, we love a smoothee.
Also get meeting people by joining groups and club, even thinks you wouldn’t do normally. Sometimes things aren’t just going to come to you, but like I said, hold back on the desperate vibe….you’ll send them running, just try and play it cool.

[oberon]

Good advice so far.

A good life lesson... "No one else is responsible for your happiness." If you aren't happy now, it's unlikely that another person is going to make you that way. Once you are happy with yourself, then you- as Baby Blue pointed out- won't be radiating that "desperate" vibe. Make friends. Female or male... just people to "hang" with. If you keep yourself busy enough, you don't have time to be lonely. And THAT'S usually when you find someone.

Good luck and take care.

[mjv154]

I agree with the other posters. Relax and work on growing as a person, that's a sure fire way to be more attractive when that certain person happens into your life.

Do things you like to do, and get involved with people who do the same. Give it some time and things will take care of themselves. It's just not worth stressing over these types of things it get your know where, but upset and desperate.

Relax my friend and let things just happen

[Rawbob]

GREAT ADVICE from all the prior posters!

My 2 cents worth: STOP LOOKING! I've always found that when i stop chasing something, i seem to find it faster by just standing still. By that i mean, just do your thing. Go to class, practice, your normal daily activites and just let the issue of a girlfriend go. Remember the old Boy Scout rule: IF you ever get lost: STAND STILL, we'll find you. The same rule applies in life !

STOP LOOKING..let her find U!