How do I tell him...

[Starr]

Removed.

Sorry, but i know some one in real life who has started coming here and may be able to ID me from my posts.

Thanks

[Ashes]

Humm... that's a toughie.

First: You are already dating him right ? Like a boyfriend and all ? And no feelings have been spoken yet ? Your post make it seem like you are dating just for the fun of it.

First things first ! Are you shy ? Do you fear rejection ? If not, then go for it ! If you are, *I suggest probing his own feelings first with as much subtelty as possible (If you need help for that too, feel free to ask).

But ultimately, you WILL have to make the big jump and tell him your feelings (unless he does first). So...

- Find a quiet spot. A dark alleyway in a bar is NOT a quiet spot. Avoid restaurants too, so if things go bad it doesn't become some kind of public entertainment. A stroll in a park could be nice. Or alone at home (not while watching a movie).

- Start talking about related stuff like remembering your first date (if that was a long time ago) and how it progressed like kissing and holding hands and all the stuff. You could also just let silence linger for a moment before speaking more seriously. What I'm trying to say is, avoid sudden jumps in conversation like "Nice weather huh ? By the way, I think I love you". The example might be a bit extreme but you get the idea.

- You can say it like you're not really sure yourself but you think you're feeling more for him than before.

- You need his undivided attention ! This moment is important so show it. Take his hand or snuggle a bit but keep eye contact ( without glaring at him or anything), you want to make sure he takes you seriously.

- Give him time to consider your every words, don't go and kiss him the second you finish your sentence. Let your words have their impact.

- Last bit of advice: Relax. Don't try to memorize a sentence or to expect him or you to behave exactly as predicted. Expect the unexpected, try to keep a smile on and don't go too formal.


I'm not gonna give you any particular sentence to say because frankly, you ought to be thinking one up instead of using those said by some stranger on a message board.

I know my advice isn't complete and I'm not claiming to be any good at it either but it's late for me so others will have to help you for now.

[Starr]

thanks