the brush off?

[oberon]

Well, I'm glad this guy seems to be getting the message. *At least, I hope so.

Hmmm... Tease, it also seems that you are "working" (lol) your way around the office. * * I don't know why we attract the guys we do. *I seem to attract the mentally disturbed. *Seriously. *Let's see... my serious relationships:

1. (2 months) *The first guy I ever really fell for. *This guy was a pathological liar. *Nothing he ever said was the truth. *Including the fact that he wasn't single... he was ALREADY in a relationship. *UGH!

2. *(6 months)This guy was a "doomed" homosexual. *He was even going to a group to try to change. *Of course, that didn't stop him from f#%@ing around with me in my office after hours. *Somehow, I don't think his "therapy" took.

3. *(1 year...about) *This one was married and "confused". *We spent so much time on his boat that I wonder that the wife never had suspicions. *He was just MUCH too interested in playing both sides.

4. *(8 years) *At least this one was diagnosised. *He was legitimately bi-polar (manic/depressive). *Strangely, that wasn't what separated us.

5. *(1 year) *Another pathological liar... but worse an egomaniac. *He seriously NEVER thought that anything he did was wrong. *If he wanted to do it, it was the right thing to do. *

6. * (1 year.. again, sort of) * Another closet case. *He SO wanted to be gay... he just didn't want anyone else to know. *Sorry, but you can only put up with that for so long...lol.

And those are just the high points...lol. *That doesn't count all the weird ones that only lasted a date or two...

Well, Tease, I'm not sure why I typed all that... except maybe you know you aren't the only one who attracts strangeness. lol *

Feel any better?

[thetease13]

*pets oberon*

I feel ya buddy.
I really do. lol.

[monie]

Woah- people are petting each other now? hehe just playin.

Well that made me feel a bit better about my past... I can name one psycho I "dated" a few years back... for 5 days... then he stole a car to come to my house, saying we had plans and i didnt show up... good thing i wasnt even home- my scary sister dealt with him!

Then there was this guy back in high school. He constantly said he liked this girl or that girl, and when they were supposed to go on a date or do something together, he would come up with some reason to not show up. And on the off chance he actually started to get serious with a girl, he would break up with her just as it seemed good. Yes, I was one of those girls. We had been good friends for a while, when he asked me on a date. So I'm all ready, waiting for him to show up. After a while, a friend of his comes up to me and tells me his uncle was in the hospital, thats why he couldnt come. Then the guy dropped out of school and moved, and nobody ever really heard from him again...

Other than that, I had one serious relationship that lasted 9 months and ended last summer. I had a few of my first posts here relating to him. And now I have just started a relationship, hope he doesnt turn out psycho...

Ok, I'm done rambling about random crap... for now... haha

[thetease13]

petting is good. **nods* * *

Now, before I begin, I never actually dated these guys. *They were just ones that liked me and actually pursued it in some way.

Lets see... guy #1, he was um, "looney" enough to burn your name into his arm with a coat hanger.
Guy #2, he would follow me around like a lost puppy dog. *Told him I was interested...so then he went off and found a girl that would date him and flaunted her in front of me and made out with her in front of me as if to say "this is what you're missing".
Only normal guy there was in high school was my best friend. *Only, we never seemed to like each other at the same time...so he eventually found a longterm girlfriend that went on for like a year and a half.
Now we move onto college.
Guy #3, yea, he thought he was a vampire. *No, I'm not kidding. *And he followed me around, like, everywhere, and he was in fact my first kiss...I just don't count him. *Why? *Because me made me kiss him. *We had a mutual friend and so we were talking outside one of my classes and like I got up to go inside and he wouldn't let me leave till I kissed him. *Makes me wonder what would have happened if I dated him.

*takes deep breath before this one*

Guy #4, the last of the bunch. *He is the one that in fact made me give up hoping someone sane would come along. *I had known him for about oh, a year and he asked me to the movies. *Figured why not. *I needed out of my house. *Well movies turned into going skating afterwards. *No biggie really. *Then he found every pet peeve I ever had. *Tried to force feed me and told me I was too skinny and needed to eat. *Then he took me to his old house so he could feed his dogs and we sat there in his truck forever. *I told him several times I wanted to go home. *He told me constantly after this song finishes...and then after the cd finishes..and then the damn cd started over and he STILL didn't want to take me home. *He kept trying to kiss me and I kept brushing him off. *So he started to kiss my hand as if that would make me let him kiss me. *He eventually took me home. *Kept trying to pressure me to let him take me out again the next day, I told him I had school work (which I did actually. *had a big paper due.) and it all went downhill from there. *He followed me around school. *I couldn't go to the bathroom without him being right outside afterwards. *He called me...constantly. *I didn't have voicemail on my cellphone, so I programmed his # in so I would know when to not answer it. *I couldn't answer the phone in my own house, my parents had to. *When they were gone, they had a system where they would call and let it ring twice...then hang up...then call right back again so I would know that it was them. *He showed up at my house one day out of the blue and called me to tell me to come outside. *And this went on well into the beginning of the next year (2003). *Well, the home calling stopped, and he didn't show up at my house anymore, he just followed me around school and called my cell. *Fun times really.

Luckily around June of last year, I met the one I'm "with" now and he got my mind off the psycho.

And ya know, the normal ones may be married, but atleast they didn't go all psychotic on me and not take no for an answer.

So lets see, WHY exactly do I have problems with relationships?
Hmm...I just don't know....

[monie]

Damn, your #4 sounds a lot like the guys my sister would attract! I remember always having to answer the phone cause these psychos would call for her. I'd have to come up with some way to get rid of them... I really dont know how i did though. Eventually we decided that from then on, if a psycho asked for her number, she's give him a fake in hopes of never hearing from him again. Worked... most of the time.

[thetease13]

You know it's bad when you have to have your teacher separate you in class. lol.
He sat next to me in our theory class and yea, she'd always pair me up with him because I understood it and he never did so after all that came about I went to her and she said she'd talk to him and she paired me with other people.

However, the annoying part was, if I sat somewhere else, he would of course follow me to that part of the room and sit next to me there.

The sad part was though, I still sat next to him the next semester, I just turned sideways so I wouldn't have to know he was staring at me.
*shudders*

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (thetease13 @ Nov. 08 2004,08:35)]*pets oberon*

I feel ya buddy.
I really do. *lol.

AW.. thanks, Tease.

The funny thing is looking back, I don't regret any of these relationships.... even the worst, which was probably the egomaniac. I learned something from all of them. Probably even stranger is that I'm pretty close to being back where I started in terms of my outlook on life. I'm happy just being by myself. That doesn't mean I'd turn down Mr. Right, but I no longer feel that it's a "life or death" situation...lol.