dating a virgin

[eidrien83]

ive been dating this virgin for about 3 weeks now before that we were friends for 4 years ?

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

Why don't you ask her to trim it.. or shave yourself...
cause.. i duno about you but i'd be really pissed off if some guy told me what you said... and they had hair :P

[WallyLlama]

She wants to stay a virgin until she's married... and is quite sure she'll regret it if you don't.

You've had numerous partners and call her a "horn ball." You've told her staying a virgin is her decision, but now you want to convince her to shave her bush?!

Oh, yeah, and you've been a couple for three weeks.

My suggestion is that you stay away from her bush entirely. That way it won't matter how much hair she has there.

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (WallyLlama @ Oct. 22 2004,03:55)]My suggestion is that you stay away from her bush entirely. That way it won't matter how much hair she has there.

LOL
yeah
I agree...at the rate you guys are going and w/ you... she probably won't stay a virgin for long.

[oberon]

I'd suggest a "trimming session" for both of you. Add it to your "playing around". Tell her you want to trim yourself down there, and you might possibly work it around to getting her to try it herself. Of course, it goes almost without saying, the final decision will be her's.

[DMC87]

I suggest, comically, that when you 2 start messing around someone turns a hose on you, then it'll be all washed down there and you just need to start trimming. She may even keep her virginity longer. lol

[newguy]

Leave her alone, don't ruin her for someone else.

[eDJ]

For me virgins have equaled frustration. Look at all the thoughts flying about now. The virgin girl may have very little
knowledge or understanding of what it is all about and truly not know her own mind. She may not understand the social
customs of those who have entered their sexuality before marriage.

Most virgin girls may have been taught to wait till marriage....that's why she talks about waiting. She thinks it is what she should do cause that's what she has always heard. She may wonder why some guys she would like to
date brush her off when she reveals to them that she is a virgin. If you think it is difficult for a girl.......try this as a guy.

A girl may have difficulty understanding why she isn't beloved to those kids who are sexual.......like there is something wrong with her that makes her socialy undesirable. It's like she is stalled at the starting line.

Still......some wait till marriage and have a lovely experience
growing into their sexuality with their husband. I don't think there is any one right way........just finding what is right for the individual.

As far as pubic hair goes......the trend has been to have those
bikini wax jobs for some time. I know people who call them
"Hitlers moustaches" and would rather see the girl shave it all off. I find girls worry about feminine odor if they have very bushy pubes. It isn't good form to tell someone that they are unacceptable or that they aren't good enough and inpose your values on them or try to change them....without at least tactfully trying to offer some concern and support. Pubes aren't difficult to trim and they will grow back when trimed.
I've always liked a nice bush on a girl myself....then that's just me.

Of the virgins I've known, one was upfront and honest with me
and stated she would like to have sex with someone who would do right by her. Another was somewhat shy and never told me. Weeks went by and I asked her if she would like more than huging and kissing etc. She would just act like she wasn't sure. I didn't recognize it was from the fact she was a virgin......I just figured she wasn't ready with me. I later found out she wanted me to take the lead and just take her.
I didn't want her to think I was date raping her so I wante it to be more mutual and natural. Arrrrrgggg!!! She didn't want to look dumb it turned out. I guess she would have tried to fake she wasn't a virgin? If we did do it???

So, I see it as a frustrating process...if she doesn't know her own mind, have enough experience to decide what to do, or isn't honest enough up front fearing rejection but hoping something will happen and she won't have to reveal the fact she was a virgin. Some people hunt for virgins and some run away from them.

The ones I've known have left me feeling like I was beating my head against a rubber wall.

eDJ

[eidrien83]

i can understand how you feel about the virgins..

[WallyLlama]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (eidrien83 @ Oct. 26 2004,02:34)]2. she is younger than me by 3 years so combined with being a virgin i wonder is her age has anything to do with it.. this is the first virgin i have dated. and ive noticed that when there is something i dont want to do,(go shopping with her) she will throw the idea of messing around out at me if i do go.

You haven't said how old she is, but from all indications and your observations, I'd say she's fairly young and her age has everything to do with it. She probably doesn't know for sure what she wants most of the time.

I gotta give her credit for figuring you out, though. Think about it. She wants to stay a virgin but has figured out that hinting she might not gives her power over you.

Frankly, it sounds like you're working awfully hard at convincing yourself that deep down she wants to have sex with you. Maybe she does, but "wanting" doesn't mean she's going to do it and it doesn't give you permission to influence her decision. No is No, as they say. It's not head games - it's saying no to desires and impulses.

If you care for her you might consider helping her with it... tell her that she needs to be more consistent with her words and actions... and that you'll go shopping with her occasionally even if she does want to stay a virgin.

A virgin is a person and very much like all other people, it's just someone who hasn't had sex yet (well, by most definitions LOL).