really shy

[luckynu8]

it really sucks beeing shy i like this guy a lot and some things happened when we went drinking but we are both to shy to talk about it for a long period of time but when i was drunk i told him i wanted to give him head and said i had been woundering of the past 3 weeks what that would be like egsactlly but i really want to find out how to tell him that i like him i just cant find the words and it is driving me insane i want to tell him i like him but the words just dont want to come out!

[demonbuttercup]

We'll I think he kinda already knows how you feel.
Even tho you may have been drunk, he probably got the impression that you find him sexually attractive. Do you remember what he said after you told him you wanted to give him oral??
Like you said, he's shy too and maybe it embarrassed him or caught him off guard.
Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and just come out and say it.
good luck

[eDJ]

Let me mention this.......

Even though you are(both) shy, it is important to tell him that you like him...and soon. If he is a younger inexperienced guy he may get a wrong impression.....that you are just looking for guys to have sex with.

You need to establish with him the fact you only did that cause you like "HIM". Actions can speak louder than words, but alot of girls find out how dumb guys can be about this stuff from these experiences. As a guy I've seen it.

What you could do is get him alone with nobody around at all.
Ask him to hold you...you know put his arms around you and your head on his shoulder. Then you can whisper to him softly slowly....you know what we did the other day?(let him remember it).....you know I only did that cause I like you so much....don't you? I just want you to know.(and just hold each other awhile)

He may have any of several reactions to your telling him, but deep inside he should feel good knowing you are forthright enough to tell him and probably open up some with you. It would be a step in the right direction to overcome both of your shyness.

From what you have explained this is what I would suggest.

eDJ

[oberon]

I have a fairly radical way of looking at this... what's the absolute worst thing that could happen when you tell him (or anybody else for that matter) that you like him? *Is he going to laugh in your face? *Doubtful, since he obviously attracts you enough to like him. *Maybe he might not be interested? *It's a chance you take whenever you open yourself up to someone. *At least you'll have an answer... and if the answer is "no", at least, you won't continue wasting your time over something that's not going to happen.

Hmm... I hope that doesn't sound too negative. *I really don't mean it to be. *I just feel it's best to establish your feelings when you feel them... rather than worrying yourself sick. *

And if he happens to have the bad taste not to be interested... you just say, "NEXT!" *and find someone with better taste who is. *

[vagabondprince]

i'm a very shy guy, so i know this very well: you telling him you like him would probably be a godsend to him. I know I would have gone crazy if any girl i hung out with in high school (i only hung out with the girls i had crushes on, but was too shy to tell generally) would have told me she liked me.

He may have gotten the impression when you two were drunk that it was the alcohol talking - because we all know alcohol can do that sometimes - so he didn't think much of it, or believed it may not be true that is really what you want. I would definitely say go for it.

[luckynu8]

well the only thing that i could see working is to tell him but it so hard sometimes i guess is i am so afraid to get hurt cause that is never cool but like you all said what is the worst that could happen. and we have talked a bit of what i said and i said back well im sober now and the offer still stands i may have been drunk but i wasnt lieing im more honest when im drunk but still nothing happened since then and now i still dont know how to find the words. i tried writing him a note and he pulled the i havent read it. but one of his friends told me he did but he hasnt backed down if anything we have been hanging out more and more i just dont know what to say to him about my feelings or how to get into a situation were they can be brought up what would be a good time to start talking about that??

[vagabondprince]

it sounds like he's fairly shy as well. my recommendation, if i am grasping the situation right, is one of those times when you are hanging out together, make a move to bring this thing between you two a step farther. As in if you don't hold his hand yet, reach out and grab his hand softly. If you are already that far along, maybe initiate a kiss.

Basically, it sounds like it's a relationship starting to take its course, and needs a bit of initiative taken on one side or the other, so you can either make the move or wait for him to. if he's a shy guy like me, it may be a while before he does, and he'd need some good hints that you want it to go farther before he'd act.

[ftcollinsboy121]

I used to be shy, but then I realized that not sharing my feelings and such was worse. Just open up, tell him how you feel, sober, and don't worry about it. The worst that could happen is that he says no.

[shinedown18]

One thing you may want to consider is why he is shy. I am a very shy guy and if a girl walked up to me and told me something like that, I would probably act the same way he is. What I am saying is that he may be shy because he feels inadequate due either to lack of sexual experience or maybe he thinks he is smaller than average. He probably really likes you too, but his anxieties are larger than his attraction to you.

[luckynu8]

well the other day i was talking to his friends and they told me some horrible news first his friend nathan who has been going between the both of us tell both of us little details just to piss both of us off from what i found out last night but he told me that justin isnt looking for a relationship but after talking to a few more of his friends they gave me the go ahead and pretty much told me to get off my ass and ask himout but i have never done that before and i dont know how to ask someone out and it hink that may be the only problem how do you ask some one out i was thinking that i would say you know i have been getting asked by quite a few people if your my boyfriend and i would like the answere to be yes nut my friends all think that it is too grade school and none of them think that it'll work does any one have any good ways of asking people out?