Communication

[Scronywhiteguy]

Hi, long time reader, first time poster. Ninteen years old and I've been in a great relationship with a girl I've met in college for over a year now. We have in the past been sexually active in all aspects of sex, but have decided to cut vaginal penetration out of our sexual repertoir after a close encounter. Been reading on here for a while and one of the constants that seems to keep coming up is communication. The other night I got to thinking and decided that maybe us cutting vaginal penetration could be a good thing for both of our sex lives if we played it right. Decided that a little communication was necessary the other day and suggested that we lie down and just ask each other questions about what we like in bed, what turns us on, what we THINK may turn us on, what we would like to try, fantasies, etc. After about an hour of this I was pleasently surprised to find that we both have alot of the same interest sexually. It was almost refreshing to hear some of the fantasies and desires that we both share and I think it will lead to an even happier and healthier relationship both sexually and non sexually for us. On top of that after about an hour of talking we were both so turned on that we decided to try a few things out we had been talking about that lead to some VERY good oral and manual sex (atleast on my part, although I THINK I speak for her as well). Just wanted to commend you guys for doing such a good job on here with your advice and comments. No real questions as of now, just a compliment.

[WallyLlama]

Congratulations on a wonderful discovery!

If I may suggest... now do it again, but not about sex. Make it a regular "meeting" - and the topics range from money to children to...

And never forget that the point is to share, not to agree.

[Rawbob]

Hi Scrony.....GOOD JOB! WELL DONE! BRAVO!

Note to all the other readers out there: HE COMMUNICATED AND DIDN'T EXPLODE! HAHAHAHAH

It's amazing how simply talking to the one we care is so damned scary! Thanks for sharing with us..and i hope you'll continue to post.

What you talked about, how you felt and handled it would also be of great help to the readers! Share if u like!

Congrats again!

[oberon]

Hmmm... we get blasted occasionally for telling people, "Talk to each other." It's nice to hear that someone can prove "It works!"...lol.

Being able to share our thoughts is a gift. And it can be wonderful.

Good job, Sconywhiteguy! The compliment is all your's.

Take care.

[Scronywhiteguy]

Sorry about the delay in responding. The busy life of a college student

Wally. As far as other forms of communication goes I'd like to think we have a rather good communication forum going in other aspects of life. We're usually able to talk things out pretty well and think we have a pretty good idea about where our futures may be taking us. Its just that sexually there has always been some inhibitions (from what I've felt) about talking about sex. I think we may have jumped over that the other day though.

Bob. As far as what we talked about we did alot of talking about what turned each other on. Found out that we both have a bit of a submissive side to each other but can both be dominant. I guess you could say that when it came down too it we both are turned on by being surprised a bit. She pretty much told me that she doesn't want to know whats going to happen next. We talked about what some of our fantasies may be (not necessarily ones we will ever fulfill but...). It was rather interesting b/c we both seem to have some fantasies about partaking in sexual activities outside of the bedroom (hiding in public) and we have both toyed with the idea of adding a 3rd (although I'm well aware that that would be something that would take a lot more communication should we ever decide to try it). Also clarified a few things. For example I was able to clarify some things in what I might be able to do better when performing oral (and I'm working on that).

Hope this helps a little.