need some advice on becoming exclusive

[booty_licious]

I've been seeing a man for a couple of weeks. We see each other on average once a week with phone calls in between. I like him very much and would like to date him exclusively. What is the best way to approach the subject? I don't want to assume that he is not dating other women and I honestly don't know if there are other women in the picture. Should I initiate it or should I wait for him to bring it up?

[oberon]

Just ask him what he's looking for. Is he seeking someone to be exclusive with or is he just "playing the field"? I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to establish what your goals are.

[soulmates82]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (oberon @ Oct. 11 2004,13:00)]Just ask him what he's looking for. *Is he seeking someone to be exclusive with or is he just "playing the field"? *I don't think there's anything wrong with trying to establish what your goals are.

ditto

practice safe sex regardless if your the only one he is dating or if he currently is seeing others as well.

im the first to admit im a bit ol fashion but if you've only been going out for two weeks isnt that kinda quick to be having sex? and what's the rush to make the relationship exclusive? dont know how old you are or what your situation is but i'd s-l-o-w d-o-w-n and dont be in such a hurry. if you and him are right for each other and this relationship is meant to be - it will eventually be.

[booty_licious]

I should have said "a few weeks" rather than a "couple of weeks". I've been seeing him since mid-August. No rush, I just don't want to date other people other than him right now.

[WallyLlama]

Another option: you can be as exclusive as you want with him, just remember that doesn't automatically mean you can require him to be exclusive with you...

Why not tell him that you are so satisfied with him you are not dating anyone else and see how he responds to it?

You are taking a risk that you'll scare him off, but life is about risks.

[soulmates82]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (booty_licious @ Oct. 13 2004,03:02)]I should have said "a few weeks" rather than a "couple of weeks". *I've been seeing him since mid-August. *No rush, I just don't want to date other people other than him right now.

please do not take offensive cuz im just gonna say this point blank cuz cant figure how to ask this mildly

you obviously like this guy a lot and i wonder if you would like to become more intimate with him but dont want to be just another gal in his "harem"?

[booty_licious]

true...I do like him a lot. I also feel that since neither of us has said anything about being exclusive we are both open to dating other people.

[soulmates82]

why are you uncomfortable with him seeing other people?

[booty_licious]

I was going to say that I was not uncomfortable...but that would not be true. If I were comfortable with it, I wouldn't be discussing how to become exclusive with him...lol. I guess the best way to put it is that I want to know where I stand with him. If he's not seeing other women, FANTASTIC!!! If he is, I would interpret it as meaning that he is not as into me as I would like to think.