Cat got my tounge

[NigBac]

Hey well this is my 2nd post here and i want to send out another thx to all the people that helped me out... Anyways im sure you all are familiar wit that sayin... well i was talkin to that girl i was talkin bout the other day and i found myself tring to talk to her when my mind went completley blank... i coulnd't think of anything to say and i was silent for about 5 mins... yall can imagine how i felt beein in high school an all... the thing is that i really like this girl but im afraid that yall were right about just putting my off politlely. SHould i just ask her if that's what she is doing or should i just hope that she is saying that for the right reasons??

[WallyLlama]

I didn't comment on your other post, but I can see this is really "bothering" you...

It's also possible she is a bit flattered by the attention of a younger guy and she too isn't certain how to handle it. (That doesn't necessarily make for a great relationship, but it's a start!)

One of the things that I think is important to learn is being able to put yourself in another's shoes and consider how they feel, what they think, etc. It's difficult and impossible to do 100%, but there's good value in trying. In other words, don't get so focused on how you feel about her that you aren't paying attention to what she's thinking and feeling.

You'll find the most effective (not necessarily easiest) way to learn what somebody else thinks and feels is to ask them and then LISTEN to the answer.

You also have to accept the answer. If you "hound" somebody that's a put off and will drive her away.

In this case, I'd suggest you keep it simple. Don't ask her for a total commitment to you. If she seems happy you're around, be happy being around her.

[soulmates82]

ah - tongue-tied like a school boy...
we've all been in those awstruck situations where all we can manage to say is a muddle of incoharent ahs, duhs, umms, wells, humms.... we've dreamed of this momnt, rehearsed tons of whitty things to say and planed ever move that would make them see how charming and attractive we are and then just sweep them off their feet and blown 'em away by how cool we were.
never fails we end up looking like some bumbling stumbling fool idiot!
you got yourself beleiving she is sooo far up above you, like your down here and she's some shinning star way up out of your reach. you've made yourself look like an unworthy pion trying to flatter yourself in the glory of her attention.
get her off the pedistal you put her up on and back at your same level where she belongs. you're gonna be a lot more comfortable once you're eye to eye standing on even ground, talking to your equally worthy match

[guyinmovies]

I used to be like this myself... it took years but eventually i found out that not worrying how i am coming off, but just being who i really am helps a lot. If she doesnt like you, she doesnt like you. Try going to your friends and just make small talk... its basically the same thing with a little flirtyness add in to spice things up