Why cant I orgasm during oral?

[Really?]

Somebody help me out with this. Why cant I cum when my Girl is giving me a blow job. She doesnt say anything but I know she's getting thoughts in her head, like she's doing something wrong. Whats my deal?

Also how long does it normally take for a BJ to uhhh....produce results. Thanks.

[demonbuttercup]

Once again, there isn't an exact answer to your question.
Maybe this link will help. This guy has the same problem as you.

[eDJ]

I had to laugh when I read this.......I had the problem for a long time too. All the girls I knew wanted to give bj's and swallow...but I couldn't produce. Likewise most of them never orgasmed during oral either.

One evening I was with a particular girl who had me going down on her and she kept moaning......harder, harder. So,
I told her to tell me if it was too hard as I didn't wish to hurt her. She just placed her hand on the back of my head and pulled me into her saying "try me"! I soon had her gasping and moaning hard(and my poor ol tongue....I didn't know how much longer....) and then she almost exploded.....and pushed me away. I got up beside her to pull the covers over us and cuddle. It took her awhile to get her breath....then she said I was the only one who had ever gotten her off.

Later she wanted to give oral to me. She knew I had to mastrubte for her when she as sucking me to orgasm. She placed me against the wall and started going back and forth faster and harder allowing her saliva to drool on her lovely breast. She seemed to be going like a wood pecker and I found myself feeling like it was about to happen....and then I let go. She looked like I had given her a facial....but it was her own saliva. I wondered how her neck felt with all the intensive effort she was putting into it. But that running her tongue around under the head of my penis had me feeling like I was floating on air.

I guess when people spend their teen years mastrubating they loose their sensitivity...and it takes more and more pressure to get ones lover off.

eDJ

[anne]

edj that story makes me horny lol i don't know what else to say but read that link and try to relax

[vagabondprince]

something the link doesn't really elaborate on is why you may be having problems. eDJ kind of touched on what i think is the biggest reason (for me at least) it's hard to orgasm from oral.

masturbating a lot is what i have associated with my problems orgasming from sex and oral. You just get used to the feeling of masturbation as the feeling that brings you to orgasm, so other feelings just don't do the job. What i found worked for me so that i could orgasm from sex was not masturbating for a few days, kinda building up my horniness till i was ready to burst, then doing it. unfortunately i still have not orgasmed from a BJ. My girlfriend doesn't take the time and effort needed to produce the results. But my recommendation is to refrain from masturbating. When she is giving you oral, she will probably have to do it faster and longer than normal the first couple of times to bring on the orgasm

[Ringo]

You can also try 69-ing. If both people are having fun at the same time there's less desire to stop during it.

Cheers.

[Bigone666]

It seems to me that technique in her performance might, not necessarily lacking, require some different concepts and other way in which to stimulate you. My girl is extremely talented in that area... she uses her tongue... circles around the head... she beats my cock off her tongue... gently nibbles at the head of my cock.... sometimes drags her teeth over the shaft... she sucks my balls while pumping my cock with her hand... she wets her finger and plays with my ass... she will continue and work it until I explode... sometimes it happens quicker than other times but the whole issue is that she can change up the techniques on the fly.... same is true with me down on her... trying different things brings different sensations and stimulations...

[DannyBoy]

tru bigone666, its all depends on the tech.
my 1st bj i couldn't cum coz it was rather painfull but it was the 1st time my gf gave a bj.
but 2hours after she was still there tryin and i just could not get it out,but after a while i maneged to cum.

but then after i had sores on the head of my penis which were very painfull.

the lass need to have good tech on this feature. sum might disagree but i find if they try sumit different then the beta it feels and the more u enjoy it.
69 cums to mind and i think thats the best way to cure coz then ur pleasin her and she pleasin u. then she'll stay longer because she is enjoyin it 2.

[lilly2279]

eeeek, hickies on your penis? That sucks. lol, no really sucks too hard. lol.

I had a friend who got hickies from oral. some girls think you need to create some sort of vacuum when giving oral. A good rhythm, lots of saliva and the hand helping while "gently" sucking will usually pay off if both parties are patient!

[pozzolane]

Masturbating makes you less sensitive??? Since when??? I don't believe that's accurate. Infact, from what I understand masturbation is a good way to improve ones sexual health.

Maybe you're just too nervous or are not in the right mind set to recieve oral. Also maybe her performance is not quite up to par. Could be a multitude of things. The main thing is to relax and have fun. Is she masturbating you while she uses her mouth too? maybe take her to someone that can teach you two oral techniques. Or research it on the internet.

Good luck