I Wounder whats going on?

[allen]

hi, well i got this little problem hear, since me and my GF has ben going out she likes to stay up very late i meen 2to3 or i even seen 4 AM , we have ben going out for almost 3 months
and she livs with her parents and i liv with myn, you see i work at nights alot and my gf do's not want to talk to me late at night she says her parints dont like it but every time i drive by her house when i come home from work her living room lights are on relly late like i said 2to3 or even 4 am and with that much lighting on wouldent you think that thats unuf to keep every one up and her parints work early in the morning ? , and like tonight i got off early from work and i picked her up from her house and we spent a couple hours together and talked , and she has ben telling me about this Job intervue she has early in the morning and how she cant stay up so late and stuff and i go back to my work to get some stuff i forgot and go meet my father cause he is a taxie driver and he works at night to, so its about almost 3am and
her living room lights are still on would you guys think that theres some thing rong ? i just need some helpful advice cause i never dated a girl like this befor i dont know if this is normal or if she is cheting on me cause she cant talk to me ont he phone or she is talking to a nather dude or what , so ya if any one that has or knows what this sounds like i would love the advice cause for some odd reason it bothers me cause my grandfather always said nuthing good happens after 12am if you know what i meen .

[WallyLlama]

There are probably hundreds of possible reasons the lights are on.

Maybe she's afraid of the dark.

Seriously, I wouldn't consider it worth worrying about.

If the lights were off, would you think she'd gone out (with a guy)?

Admittedly, most households don't leave lights on all night, but it sounds like hers functions a little differently.

Unless there's something else to add, I'd have to say "no worries."

[demonbuttercup]

yeah the living room lights isn't much to go on.
I live in an apt but I leave a small lamp on in the living room pretty much all the time.
so if my roommate gets home late, he can see where he's going. or if you have to get up in the middle of the night for a drink, you can find your way to the kitchen. lots of reasons. or yeah, maybe you just don't like the dark.
just because the living room light is on doesn't even mean she's awake. it would be different if it was her bedroom light.

[oberon]

My sister- in her twenties- is still afraid of the dark... left to her own devices she would leave every light in the house on all night long. Everybody's different... personally, I want it pitch black when I'm trying to sleep.

Here's an idea... Why don't you just ask her why the lights are on? Say, "I was driving home from work last night and noticed all the lights on... was something wrong?" It's really the best and quickest way to find out.

[demonbuttercup]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (oberon @ Sep. 21 2004,09:00)]Here's an idea... Why don't you just ask her why the lights are on? *Say, "I was driving home from work last night and noticed all the lights on... was something wrong?" *It's really the best and quickest way to find out.

yeah thats the best way to get your answer.
does she have siblings? maybe they are in the living room.
lights in the living room don't really keep people awake, unless your bedroom is right off the living room and you leave the doors open.
on the other hand, a ringing phone at 1am does wake everyone up.
if its on every single night then her parents just probably leave the lights on. its not likely she's staying up every night to talk to other boys. if that was even the case.

[soulmates82]

the only reason you ever turn a light on is cuz you're cheating?

[thetease13]

The light in my room is on half the night. There are nights when I fall asleep with it on. It is in fact the only light on in my house late at night cause everyone else in their right mind has gone to bed.

So really, I don't see a big deal about a light being on. It's just a light.
Perhaps she's just a night owl like myself. So as long as she's awake, the light is on (or again just falls asleep with it on).

My question to you though is do you have a reason to suspect she's cheating other than just a light being on?

Really, just take oberon's route and ask her why the light was on if it concerns you so much.

[Firestarter2]

We always leave our kitchen and livingroom light on. We have to to through there to get to the bathroom and it's easier to leave it on because we both get up a number of times late at night to use the bathroom.

[pozzolane]

Yeah I don't understand the logic of "her living room light is on so therefore she might be cheating on me"...To me it sounds like you might have some confidence to work on. Do you feel it necessary to drive by her house late at night to make sure she's not doing something out of "the norm". If your looking for a reason for the relationship to fail you'll find one. I'm not trying to come off like a jerk here, but I know I'd be pretty upset if I found out a girlfriend was doing drive by's on my house to check up on me.