This is a question for the girls

[JNII]

Hey, how come it seems to me that my girl friend likes to behave very unpredictable with me for example, for a period of a couple weeks she was bein g very affectionate towards me, telling me she loved me madly and missed me like crazy and called me every night and now I feel like Ive moved from her number one to nothing? (we also had a fight the other night but I don't feel it is any reason for ill feelings because I have not changed at all, perhaps girls like to take their time forgiving a guy?

any help wpuld be awesome thanks

[Omega]

-smiles-, Hey JNII,
* * First off, I'm not a girl so i can't give yo ua direct thought relation on this topic, *however I am a guy that has a girlfriend and ex-gf's that have been like this from time to time.

* * It is very possible that your girl is busy with something in her life and that's whats causing her not to seem as affectionate with you lately. *If it makes you feel any better, my girl got a tad distant and less affectionate as soon as school started. *-smiles- but who can blame her, schools very important. *And she needs to work more on her homework then to be with me sometimes I would assume. *But really, it could be a job, some work she has to do, something with friends. *Many things could be taking up her time and be cloudin her mind which would mean her ability for affection and constantly calling you is cut down. *Yeah I know it doesn't feel that great when your trying to take the time to see her and she doesn't have time or want to because of homework, but it's something you learn to live with eventually because failing school is certainly not an option. *I love my girl and she loves me... I would hope... But we can't spend every second with eachother, so when we do see eachother, we try to make the most out of it as we can and when we need to work or study. *We work on it as diligently as we can. *Does that make sense?

* * Also, as for your fight, everyone's different but she may very well be holding a small grudge against you for it. *One thing we all learn is that something you may take as a small arguement could be to her, a big and serious insult. *So here this may be the case as well,

but if you want to know the real answer then here's the most famous saying in all relationships "TALK". *You can always ask us for our opinions and advice, but nothing can tell you more then going up to your girl and asking her if anything is wrong. *Or in your case, and many others, telling her exactly whats bothering you, why it's bothering you, and then ask her why she seems to not be so affectionate anymore, etc. *Make sense?talk to her, even if she says, I don't want to talk about it, that would speak volumes then simply asking us. *-smiles-. Talk to her.

[JNII]

thanks omega, thats an awesome reply... My only fear of being open like that is that it will annoy her. And I would hate to do that. So i figured I was just going to act regularly and see hopw it works out. Anotehr detail I forgot to mention is Im having a long distance relationship with her. So it was when I left she was callign me and telling me she loved me like every minute and when we had our argument 2 days ago she died down a bit.

Thanks fo teh help!

[Omega]

Thats the other thing I forgot to mention and ask.

Yes the thought of being completely open with your feelings or thoughts can and sometimes may annoy the other person but if this is a serious relationship then you sure as hell better be able to be open with one another, if things are held back or never communicated then your leading yourself to a dead end.

Acting regular as if nothing is wrong may not be the smartest move either, but I'm a hypocrite because I do that sometimes. But I'm getting better at not, because if your girl doesn't think that anything is wrong and you act regular, your expecting her to become all loving and missing you and affectionate again, if she's still busy then she won't change and you'll be hurt. The best thing i think would be to talk to her.

When you say long distance how long distance do you mean exactly? And how long have you two been going out? Are you young adults (teenagers) or what? -smiles- good luck.

[demonbuttercup]

Being open and talking isn't annoying.
Only time its annoying is if I've had a bad day for whatever reason and someone constantly over and over asks...."what's the matter w/ you" or "are you ok?" and you reply but they continue asking.
now THAT is annoying. you don't have to make her feel bad just be like, "I miss you, we haven't gotten to talk or whatever very much lately"
maybe she'll come back w/ a response...maybe she's been so busy...like omega said... that she really hasn't noticed and pointing it out to her will help.
ignoring it won't make it any better.
good luck.

[JNII]

we are teenagers adn are living 2 hours away... Im going ot see her in about 4 days. Thanks guys

[Muppet74]

Communication is the key to a good relationship...
Compromise...is the 2nd....share and share alike...
Connection...if you don't have it...don't force it!

I dislike when my friends are "fairweather" friends because as soon as they have SO's in their lives, it's always...see ya....sooon...
Well whatever...you are not joined at the hip. Just relaz...know that you are a single entity...and she is as well. You both have lives and can exist after, as much as you did before you began to date.
I'm not against relationships, so pls. don't read me wrong, but relax...chill out..and for GOD's Sake....*grr arg* communicate...do not worry about her being "annoyed" with you for wanting to sort things out...just choose your time wisely...