Are all women horrid?

[DMC87]

Is it just me or do there seem to be more women in the world who are really confident, cocky and just after a 'good time' then there are nice ones out there?

This is really getting me down, its not possible to have relationships with women if all of them are like this, and so far they all seem to be!!!

It seems any woman who has had previous b/f's at the age of 16 is overly confident and kinda slutty.

Can someone please prove i'm wrong.

I've only had one relationship as I have only ever met one nice girl.

(Also not being sexist, honest, just had a lousy time of late)

[WallyLlama]

Yikes!

I'll allow someone else to give you the "all generalities are false" speech. I'll also admit that I don't know an abundance of 16 year old girls.

But I do see some trends in society that suggest we're producing an abundance of people who are extremely self-centered and arrogant. (There's a generality; now you know why I'm not making the speech. LOL)

I was "out and about" last night and I sorta got to watch some of it in action... like the gal who got one cell phone call after another, putting the people she was with "on hold" while she enjoyed her popularity...

So far I'm proving your right! LOL

I do think some of it is age, and some of it is environment. Take away the gal's cell phone and the friends she was clearly trying to impress and she might be a nice gal. It's been a long time since I was that age, but I do remember being "victimized" a bit by girls I had the hots for... some enjoyed making fun of my ardor as if they were "above" accepting it.

Ironically, one girl I'd overlooked was my best bud throughout it all and it wasn't until we parted for college that we both realized what that meant and how much we thought of each other.

I'll bet, DMC, you're overlooking somebody as well. She'll prove your wrong when you see her.

And you will.

[demonbuttercup]

maybe its because the "double standard" has weakened a little. of course, a girl who sleep around is still considered slutty but that is becoming more accepted, maybe even popular.
Hell they even make little tiny tshirts that say "bitch" or "slut" or "tease"...you get the picture. lol
maybe it has to do w/ where you live?
if you live in a bigger city that has an actual "night life" then you are more likely to see those kinds of girls when you go out.
I don't have a real solution though, lol, sorry.

[camman]

OK here we go.
Guys hang out with girls for what... sex and good times.
Girls who seem to want to do this are the ones we tend to go after. To seem like this they have to seem , for lack of better words sluty.
The abondance of sluty girls u know is probably due to the fact that , thats who u want to hang around.
Do u want to go to a book reading, makeover , studing party... i didnt think so.
U want to hang out with the girls who in essance are the girks u dont like.
The nice girls are there u just got to venture out further . Look for good times to have good times. Leave ur dick out of the equasion a few times and it will ion essance be put into the equasion more. Ok i hope that made sense
Anyhows goodluck!

[Muppet74]

I'm gathering that you are still in school - whichever college or high) but...
have you thought about maybe finding "nice girls" like, in library (think sexy librarian girls - or girls with brains are sexy...they just haven't had the right motivator to be stimulated other than by words)
or drama club - if you like the extroverted type, or maybe she's behind the scenes making costumes, directing or painting the scenery...
An athlete...you have tons to talk to her about...(sports, sports, sports) - go for a jog with her, help her confidence with words of encouragement, they love hanging with the guys usually...
Never overlook the quiet ones (they are the ones you have to watch out for...hehe
Or the not so perfect girls/women, who are more than a size 0 or 1 and actually have meat on their bones...they are super nice too, people just judge them b/c of the way society rules us nowadays...they are smart, funny (class clowns, slapstick, black, dry, witty banter...its great)...never look down on these types of girls...
I've had many a man serenade me with "Sir Mix-a-lot ----I like big butts...) song....and those exes I've had, yeah, they say to me, I may not have the perfect body, but I make up for it in other ways....
So there are tons of girls/women that you probably haven't looked at yet b/c you want the "popular, pretty ones"...
Eyes wide, minds open and you could potentially have a great friend.... [B]

[DMC87]

Well actually although my first (and only) g/f was stunningly attractive but there was no personality there so I am now looking for a lovely girl with a lovely personality. The prob is i'm not in high School and only go to college one day a week as the other 4 days I work for a big company.

Basically I don't meet many new ppl and don't have a chance!

The ones I do meet just seem horrid.

But since my original post, I have learnt that there is a larger majority of nice women then horrible ones, thanks for all the advice it has been very helpful.

[Muppet74]

try speed dating or singles dances. Internet dating is cool as long as you don't rush it...
email for a bit, IM too...then trade phone numbers...talk, ge a feel for other person...then if instincts feel ok...then meet in public...coffee house, amusment park, mini golfing, bowling, don't do movies and dinner...
ask friends to set you up...
become a penpal...write to those around the world...i don't know....ideas....there are tons of sites for you to look at and get ideas from and such...
www.askmen.com
www.flirtingclass.com
www.datingmanual.com
www.romancetips.com

tons of stuff...check out woman's magazines too...(online of course) to understand women better...what we like, etc

[DMC87]

Should have been more specific, I am on an Apprenticeship Scheme at the moment and am only 16, things like e-dating etc i'd assume would be for 18 or 21 years old and NOT under.

But thanks for the advice, I was thinking of joining the companies social outings for new starters.

[Brandye]

Perhaps it is not the women who have the problem.

[oberon]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (Brandye @ Sep. 23 2004,14:33)]Perhaps it is not the women who have the problem.

LOL... Now, now, Brandye... *I think we've all been there- when it seems all we meet are jerks. *I think that may be what's going on here.

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (DMC87 @ Sep. 23 2004,13:34)]I was thinking of joining the companies social outings for new starters.

This is the kind of thing *you should be doing. *Think of the things you like and look for ways to meet people doing the same thing. *If you like reading, try joining a book discussion group. *If you like being "center stage", try a community theater group. * Sports? *Try mixed sports... like tennis or hiking. * Anything where you meet new people who are already doing something. *It makes it much easier to start a conversation when you already have something in common.