Do guys dig chicks with babies?????

[kittistar3]

Seriously, I was not in a good relationship, and a child came out of it. He's the cutest little dude in the world. But now I'm looking to maybe start something up with a new guy and need help about guys opinions about this topic. Please help me!

[Jracer]

Depends really. Are you looking for someone to stay and offer himself to be a "father figure" to the kid? Not many guys are intrested in a "pre made" family, at least no one that I know of. If it was me and was to be an equal parent I would say yes. In the long run it would better all around, your the real mom yet the new dad as he is also shares in the parenting role with someone to look up to.

Your call really but if I was offered the situation for the long run I would do it.

JR

[luvtoplease]

You might find someone that has has a child of their own, maybe of the same age in which case you could get love and a friend for your child.

[WallyLlama]

We all carry around a certain amount of "baggage" with us and we bring it to our relationships.

Some of it's good, some of it's not. Some of it is apparent, some of it is hidden.

For some guys, the fact that you have a child will be a negative. For some guys, it will be a positive. For others, it will be a non-issue.

To a great degree, you determine how your child influences your relationship and that's what a mature guy will be looking at when he considers his relationship with you.

The mistakes I think single Mom's too often make include:

1. Making the child the "most important person in the whole world." A lot of guys don't want to compete with that. Remember, the child is going to grow up and have his/her own life. Look for a partner to become that most important person.

2. Punishing themselves for having a child and feeling they somehow deserve less out of life because they did/do. That's not only unattractive; it's depressing.

Of course there are variations on these themes, including the appearance that you're looking for a father figure or "meal ticket." Another reality is that your parenting skills become very measureable... a few hours with your child will tell your prospective partner a lot about you!

In short (too late!), raise your child and accept responsibilty for him/her. But keep him in perspective and make sure your prospective partner sees that. Be yourself. A mature (not necessarily in age) guy will no doubt fall in love with you and everything you bring to the relationship - including your child.

You should want nothing less.

[vagabondprince]

I don't know what age you are or what age range of men you're looking at, but i'll give you my perspective as a college guy.

Getting in a relationship with someone with a baby for me would mean that i am not only forming an attachment to the mother, but also that child. I get attached very easily, and would assume even more than in any other relationship that this kinda relationship is "for the long haul." That would mean that i would soon likely have to start worrying about caring for this new family monetarily and/or in whatever other way necessary. such a commitment when i'm not even done with college would be a bit scary. not to mention that i'm in Naval ROTC and i'm not allowed to have any dependants (ie children under my custody). Now, thinking a couple more years ahead, i'll be a naval officer. my whole view on life will change by then.

[Rawbob]

You might want to cehck out:
http://www.singleparentsmingle.com/

This is one of several sites online specifically designed for single parents!

[Ringo]

Originally Posted by [b

Quote[/b] (WallyLlama @ Sep. 09 2004,11:14)]The mistakes I think single Mom's too often make include:

1. Making the child the "most important person in the whole world." A lot of guys don't want to compete with that.

Compete with it? I think most of us guys know that we can't! This creates the biggest stumbling block from the beginning.

If you point out the guy comes second-place it's a knock on the male ego. If you claim the guy comes first-place then I think most guys wouldn't believe you.

Cheers,

Ringo