relationship problems..

[darinmellott1]

me and my girlfriend were together for 9 months....we lived an hour and a half away from each other but we seen each other once or twice every week....we went through alot together but 2 weeks ago she told me it was too hard not being able to see each other when we wanted...now a week and a half later she is with another guy alot...going to his house and him going to hers and she says she has feelings for him but she still tells me she loves me and wants to be with me and she says she made a mistake but she said that she just cant stop where shes at and get back together...and i understand that but i think that she rushed into things with him and i dont know what to do

[WallyLlama]

We'll assume she does, in fact, "love" you.

Apparently, she enjoys male companionship at least as much as she loves you. She can't live without it; you can't give it. What's a girl to do?

That's actually not critical or judgemental; long distance relationships are hard.

I'm not sure there's much you can do... she's made it clear she's not going to dump this guy, at least not right now. She may have rushed in to it as you say, but she's not leaving it.

You can wait and see.

You can also go find a girl and get some of your own companionship going. It's going to be a long cold winter, I suspect.