3 some offered?

[camman]

Hello
ok so here it is. The other day i was hangin out with 2 *girls . They do gymnastics and i do tae kwan Do in the same buildin, So i have known them for at least 5 years. We were talkin about sexuall exsperiances and tips. *After an *hour or so we got into the topic of 3somes with our previous bf'S (GF'S for me.
They had done one before with each other and 1 of thier boyfriend's. I have only had 1 gf and am still toghter . we have never even had sex let alone a 3some, so i had no more to add to the conversation.
Then they had bluntly told me that they would have a 3some if they were goin out with me.I was feelin very happy with that and said i would do it with them 2.
WE went on and eventually we got to a point where they said they would do it if i ever asked. They left soon after that.

Anyway now i have a delima. I love my gf and am in such a wierd place. They are both hot ( gymnastics means flexible and good bodies) And its a 3SOME. on the other hand me and my gf have been goin out a year and a half and it *is long distance . I have steared clear of girls before but i dont know this time.

Also we have been goin through hard times( my gf and i) ( ALL DO TO HER - not gonna get into it but all times have been her and her gready ways) , but i love her.
Would i be a scumbag if i cheated / should i tell her how they offered and i said no for brownie points/ maby eventually i will have a 3some with my gf/ should i end a good *realtionship over 1 night of increadable times?

I know i probly sound gready but i am just lookin for someone to act as my consince ( wether it be the devil side or the angle side)

PS- i dont think i would be as happy with anyother girl than i am now with my gf now. Even though we are fightin real bad now.
PPS - if it makes a diffrance i am a vergin and if we do do a 3 some it will be a purely oral one.

[LadyOfLucidDepths]

hay, i duno man.... lol seems kinda like you just want a way out from your gf, and if thats really what you want...you should get rid of her then. Cause that isnt fair if you 2 are in a long distance and you are thinkin about other women on the side.. .sorry man

jamie

[WallyLlama]

Every man's fantasy!

Would you consider introducing me to these two girls? LOL

Tough question, although it sounds like you've identified most of the issues. I'm not going to look at it from a conscience point of view; let's be practical.

The first question I would ask myself is "Why do these two girls want to do this?" It is a bit rare. LOL It could well be that you were playing a bit of "truth or dare" and didn't realize it. Nothing wrong with enjoyng the fantasy, but you gotta wonder what would happen if you decided to pursue it. It's entirely possibly they'd back out.

So you might consider how much agonizing you're gonna do over a fantasy. And not just any fantasy, this one sounds great! LOL

You can, of course, make the issue as complicated as you like. Very often when we do that it's to avoid making a decision and in this case, no decision is a decision not to pursue the 3some.

There are two other things I'd add:

1. Whatever you decide and whatever you do, do NOT tell your gf. You'll get no points. Personally, if I had the opportunity you seem to have I'd want it in the paper, but try to restrain yourself.

2. Whatever you decide and whatever you do, be sure you can live with it. Most people would say "easy choice" because the safe play is no 3some, true to gf, etc. But you also have to decide if you can live with the knowledge you passed up an opportunity most guys would give a testicle for!

Not very helpful, is it?! That's only because I'm jealous. LOL

Seriously, another thing to remember is that you don't have to justify your decision to anyone but yourself, really.

[HngLkAMouse]

I take a tougher stance on this issue, personally.

NO FRICKIN' WAY!!! - Cheating is cheating... no matter WHAT the circumstances. If this is truly something you WANT to try, then you MUST let your current G/F know or at least give her the opportunity to volunteer herself into the equation. If it is just these particular "friends" that you want to "be with" for the threesome, then as far as I'm concerned... you are straying and not in-love with this girlfriend.

Lot's of people interchange the word "Love" with complacancy. If you were truly in-love with her... the thought of following through with this would not even be an option to you.

Do the right thing... you're obviously not committed to her. Break it off with her now before you hurt her even more and THEN go fulfill all your fantasies and sow-your-oats.

I don't care if it were a BUS-LOAD of SuperModels that invited me in for the time-of-my-life... I WOULD NOT EVER CHEAT on my Girfriend/Fiancé/Wife. I love & respect her too-much.

Now... would I be TEMPTED by that offer...? Hell yes, I am ALIVE after-all... heck, if she were WITH me when the offer was made... I might even just ASK her. Y'see... it's not cheating if you both agree and accept it. Cheating is all about lies and deception. If a couple openly "swings" and they both like it... it's not cheating. If a guy kisses a girl at the office but never tells his wife or G/F... that IS cheating because he's not being HONEST.

I see your temptation, but in my personal opinion, you need to go-about-it the right way. Either END your current relationship and not hurt her by lying... or somehow get her to "buy-into-it" and give you the green-light.

Either way, good luck!

[demonbuttercup]

im leaning more w/ Hung on this one. (BTW great avatar Hung)
just not a good idea. if you want to do it, then tell your g/f you are breaking up. don't cheat on her. and don't tell her that you said no for brownie points. id still think you were a jerk for discussing that kind of thing w/ 2 other girls.

you are only 16, theres time in life. either way you choose.
also, i don't expect that being w/ 2 hott chicks will result in only oral. id bet money you'd lose your virginity that night..lol.

all the questions you asked only you can answer. is losing your g/f worth one night? if you guys are having such a rough time w/ the relationship then why string it along.
also, girls do say things just to tease and be mean lol.
i remember in high school there was this guy that was practically in love w/ me and my best friend. i was good friends w/ the guy, we'd go to concerts and hang out at school but just friend stuff. he called one night and my girl friend was spending the night. she was all, sneak out and come over...lol. you are missing the chance of a lifetime LOL.
poor guy.
so yeah be sure its for real.

[camman]

Yea tanxs alot for the input.
I really do love my girlfriend , and when i read some things about how u guys said i might not it made me relize how much i really do. I also rembered how i never want to hurt her if possible.

I guess this opertunity just really made me ... Want other people. But i am just gonna chalk it up to effects of my stunning good looks and move on. LOL yea.

Anyhows tanxs alot .
Oh yea i also saw my little quote on bottom of post and relized that i am not the kinda person who would do somthin like this to her.

[WallyLlama]

In rereading my post, I can see how it might have appeared that I was "pro-cheating." That is not exactly the case.

I knew there would be an abundance of "don't cheat" posts and wanted to present the "other side," even though it wouldn't be the most popular one. I also tried to have a little fun with it...

My bias on issues like this is "make your own decision" and take responsibility for it! It sounds like that's what happened, so congratulations!

Now, will you please PM me with those names and numbers?

[demonbuttercup]

Heel Wally HEEL! lol
these girls are probably only 15-16
Camman is 16.

just a thought wally

i agree its the typical male fantasy and if he thinks this is his one and only chance.. then take it. just don't try to do it behind his g/f's back. be a man and tell her upfront.
thats my 2 cents.

[luvtoplease]

Might they be winding you up anyway?

[WallyLlama]

Darn, Buttercup! Now you've gone and ruined my perfectly good fantasy.



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