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[JimmieMac]

Hey people, I not long just signed upto this sight recently. anyway, I'v got a little bit of a problem..or should i say a kind of dilemma. I'm just turning seventeen and I'm seeing this girl who is also just turning seventeen and she has had sex before with this previous boyfriend. He was a older her than her and stuff. But now, we are having a pretty good relationship and we've started to mention taking things further, ie. having sex. But I have this thought that I'm going to be compared to this other guy in everyway because he was older, and also I am a virgin. I am completely ready, but theres the thought of comparrison and stuff..like am I going to be an utter letdown for her? Will I be as good as the other guy? Will it be any good for her at all or a complete boring time? So I know it might be like silly asking for advice on sex when I've never had it before, but is there anyone that can help me at all? I'd appreciate it sooo much, just anything at all.
Thanks
JimmieMac

[Tessie]

Welcome to the board JimmieMac. You know you don't have to post the same question three times. We will find you and answer it. *

I understand that you are nervous about doing it for the first time and that you think she will compare you to the guy she has been with. But really I don't think girls do that very much.

She likes you and wants to be with you. She knows your a virgin and it should mean a lot to her that you are wanting her to be your first. Also at 17 I doubt she is that experienced in knowing all about sex.

Take it slow and be yourself. Sex is a learning experience which should never stop. I feel the most important thing in a relationship is communication. So tell your girl your fears and concerns. If you can't talk about doing it then you shouldn't be doing it. Sex should be above all things enjoyable and fun.

Also asking for advice is never silly. That is how we learn what we don't know and there are a lot of good, knowledgable people here on this board.

And lastly whatever you do play it safe, so you can play for years to come.

[oberon]

Hiya JimmieMac and welcome.

The thing a lot of people don't seems to get is that while their new partner may have more sexual experience than they themselves have (people worry about this even when they aren't virgins), this new partner has never had sex with them before. *Just because you've had sex with one person (or a hundred...lol) doesn't mean you know how to please the next person to come along. *So she will need to learn what pleases you, just as you will need to learn what pleases her. *

The key here is to be as concerned about your partner's pleasure as you are your own. *If you can do that, then you'll be fine. *

Don't worry too much. *As Tessie said this is suppose to be fun. *So what if you don't do everything exactly right the first time?(most people don't, but since it's new and exciting most people don't notice that...lol) You will get better as you each learn what the other enjoys.

Remember to play safe (condoms and birth control) and HAVE FUN!

[Orbital]

When my g/f told me how many guys she'd slept with, and I compared it to my number of partners I was incredibly intimidated. But when we went to bed and comletely *let go* with each other she would tell me afterwards, deeply and honestly, how good we were together. When you're getting down to it just focus on what you're doing to her there and then. I bet you'll be the only thing on her mind - just listen to her responses.

[WallyLlama]

Whoops! I didn't notice the double post... my reply is on the other thread... sorry.